Facebook is the Devil
by, 06-06-2010 at 07:48 PM (1268 Views)
Facebook is the devil.
It is Hell for friendships, the firey pit of forgetfulness where many a friendship has slowly died on the alter of good intentions.
Oh yes - I know, facebook is a wonderful thing, a fantastic way to keep in touch with your friends, to re-connect with people you haven't seen since high school or, in my case, since dinosaurs ruled the earth. But is it truly the angel of light and the savior of the lonely that it claims to be?
I'll grant you that if a friendship is already strong and robust - or even if it is new and exciting -and if both parties take an active interest in each other's pages and status - it can indeed contribute to friendship and "keeping in touch". But there is a down side.
Ask yourself how many times you have received a request for friendship from someone you knew "way back when". You add them, you excahge a few wall posts about what each of you is up to now, and then....silencio. Days, weeks, months go by, and suddenly you stumble upon an entry of theirs on your home page and you're startled to realize that you haven't been to their page, or checked their status in what, six months? Longer? But you have them on your "friends" list, so you're in touch, yes?
Sometimes go through your friends list and actually count how many people you interact with on a regular basis (at least once a month say). I think you'll be surprised, or maybe not.
So it can be hell for friendships (if the right precautions are not taken). But it is also one of the biggest ego-boosters around. Think about it - you post your status: I am taking a bubble bath (nice - but do I really need to know?) you post your status, and a half a dozen people pop on telling you how WONDERFUL it is, what a good idea it is to take a bubble bath, what scent of bubbles they prefer, and where you can get a good price on the really expensive stuff.
WHAT DOES IT MATTER?
Do I really need validation that I'm taking a bubble bath? Or walking my dog? Or getting ready to clean out my closet?
Again - if used as a real tool of friendship, this isn't a bad thing, as a tool to keep family and friends updated as to what is going on in your life, to share news and discoveries with those you care about, but it CAN be a good thing, but the down side is that we can get SO addictied to validation. What does everyone else think of me going here - doing this - or thinking about that? There are some people who post what they're thinking of doing AND THEN WAIT FOR THE REPLIES BEFORE THEY GO AND DO IT. Yeah, I know, extreme, but I've seen it done. Nike has the right idea, just do it, and let the chips fall where they may.
*wanders off to change facebook status*
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