The 'Relationship' Rant

[Silverhaze]

Okay I must rant now before I explode....

I am so tired of society trying to cram 'relationships' and their perverted version of love down my throat.

I am happy just like this so screw your demented perverted clingy disgusting version of love.
I don't want the boxes, the conditions and the expectations.
love is not something you use for leverage, it is not something that depends on someone else
it's not like a switch can be turned on and off and I can love you and then I can't

it's not like I'm going to stop loving you if you don't love me back
and it's not going to hurt me any

I'm not going to submit to mental monogamy
I won't do it
I love many people and I'm not going to stop doing things because I'm 'expected' to because I'm in a 'relationship'

I will hang out with my best friend when I want to
I will not hang off you all the time
I'm not going to love you and only you
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you are the only one
I'm not going to lie and say that I don't love others just as much as you or that I'll die without you.

Love is free and expects nothing. It has no conditions
stop perverting love

(by the way this is not directed at you guys just society in general)

the following is the copy of the myspace bulletin that drove me off the deep end:

Have u ever been in a relationship?
yeah.. blah technically not the kind you're implying but what the fuck ever
it's only important how I define my world not you



Have u ever been in love?
I'm not in love
I am love



How many times have u been in love?
you wouldn't even understand my kind of love... to you it's a fairytale
As many breaths as I've taken since I was reborn




Have u ever met somebody at work/school?
duh someone has to hire you and I don't think I've been to a one person school




Have u ever met someone online?
sure




Do u like dating or relationships?
neither at least when it comes to love... I don't like when people expect things out of love
it's unconditional it has no expectations or conditions


Are u currently single?
that would imply that I am cut off from everyone
no I'm not single I am multiple



Do u think love at first sight is real?
I know it is




Do u believe in a Soul Mate?
many



Do u get jealous of your friends in loving relationships?
nope ... well it isn't really an issue I haven't really seen anyone in a relationship that has sold me I still stand by the fact that love is best when unconditional if anything I think I'd feel bad for them searching for something they've always had...


Have u ever lost a friendship because of a relationship?
fuck that shit
I love you no matter what it's unconditional and if you want to drag me through the dirt then I love your memory




What’s more important personality or lust?
depends we talking love or sex?
lol I like a healthy amount of personality in both I think





Would u rather meet someone just like u or your opposite?
most people aren't ready to meet their mirror




Do u believe love fades?
not for me and if it fades it wasn't real love


Are u currently friends with an ex loved one?
umm I'm going to assume that you mean ex boyfriend/girlfriend since obviously if you don't love anyone anymore then you wouldn't be friends with them although I already said that if love fades it's not real love
not to say it can't change it just doesn't fade anyways to answer the question you intended yes and I wouldn't change it for all the world less he wanted me too




Have u ever been attracted to a friend?
lol yeah I am so what attraction and love are somewhat separate
I can control myself



Have u ever had a one night stand?
not yet



Is sex important in a relationship?
to me sex is just something you do and really doesn't have anything to do with love
I mean it could, it has that option but I'm not choosing to use it



Would u ever break up with someone if they were not good in bed?
I wouldn't sleep with them anymore but if I loved them that wouldn't stop me from loving them




Do u believe any other types of sex is literally sex?
lol sex is just sex and maybe that is different for everyone



Have u ever been cheated on?
No


Have u ever cheated on anyone?
No



Are strip clubs and pornography cheating?
no


Does kissing someone else constitute cheating?
if you are into biological monogamy then I guess



Does going to the movies with some one of the opposite sex constitute cheating?
depends I guess whatever see this is why I hate relationships... you're with me now you can't go to the movies with someone else wtf?


Is it possible to be friends with someone who cheated on u?
sure why keep love to yourself? share it with the world

[Satisfiction]

BRILLIANT POST. Two thumbs up. You are awesome Silverhaze... keep on shining sister

[Silverhaze]

Silverhaze I feel exactly the same(haha I find this happens a lot). I resonate so strongly with you.

I am very against monogomy, at least at this point in my life. I'm not saying I think people are *wrong* if it feels right for them, thats fine, but for me, I need to be completely free for the next stage in time in my life. I'm going traveling solo, will meet many new people along the way, who knows where I'll end up, but I don't want anything that will hold me down and limit me.

There are some couples out there who are truly meant to be together and seeing them in love is beautiful. But the boundaries society puts on "love" is completely useless and disgusting IMO. It's why there are so many miserable people and divorces, etc. People think situations are meant to stay one way (ina box) forever, and when it doesn't work out they drive their souls into the ground fighting it, it's very sad. Why can't they just let go? I have no mental attachments to anything. If things change, I let go right then and there.

It's sort of like riding a rollercoaster.. lots of people hold on tight, scream their head off, freak out. Me? I don't scream.. I smile.. and I let go, knowing everything will be okay. I mean hell, I just lost my twin soul from my life yesterday but I still am smiling, because I always am letting go, every minute, it's not that I won't miss him, I just know we aren't meant to be together right now and it's okay, everything will be okay.

They say indigos are system busters.. and I think the "system" of the way society views romantic love, love in general, and especially relationship attachments needs to be broken down, wiped away, and started over.

My whole life I've been criticized, put down and questioned because of my views on relationships. This was one of the biggest problems with me and my twin soul, he was a huge believer in happily ever after, romantic story book relationships and that is just not me. Or if it is, I have yet to meet someone who could make me want it.

wow hmm that is so funny we are very much alike... I've been working with my twin about that very thing... he beats himself up so hard over these stupid things and I just tell him unconditional love is the way to go
ha we have a perfect relationship just the way we are and we aren't in a relationship

I'm glad you feel the same way, this corruption of love must stop.

[Silverhaze]

yeah it's not just in romantic love either though... I hate that people feel obligated to others... they shouldn't have to feel that way they should want to help or hang around because they want to not because they feel they have to

it builds resentment and just brings down a lot of hurt

[nova]

i have evolved to this lately to! i'm glad i'm not alone!
it just seems like romantic love is nothing compared to what we could have together. most relationships that you see on a daily bases are ego-based- and remember, "the personality doesn't love, it needs something."

but, i DO love you all

[Verumi]

I love everyone...I think that's why people irritate me so much. As far as relationships go, I don't have intimate relationships. I'm not into the idea of procreation-activities for fun, or because someone feels like it--which is probably why I'll die as a cat lady some day. lol. Why can't I just have a companion who can tolerate my BS and I can tolerate their BS, and we feel love but also know that alone time is very imporant. Every person I have tried a relationship with wants to be attached to my hip, always talking, wanting, needing, and then I show the slightest bit of comittment and they act like I have the plague. What a neusense. I'll just stick with loving everyone, and leave these relationships to the crazy people.

[lunare11]

Okay I must rant now before I explode....

I am so tired of society trying to cram 'relationships' and their perverted version of love down my throat.

I am happy just like this so screw your demented perverted clingy disgusting version of love.
I don't want the boxes, the conditions and the expectations.
love is not something you use for leverage, it is not something that depends on someone else
it's not like a switch can be turned on and off and I can love you and then I can't

it's not like I'm going to stop loving you if you don't love me back
and it's not going to hurt me any

I'm not going to submit to mental monogamy
I won't do it
I love many people and I'm not going to stop doing things because I'm 'expected' to because I'm in a 'relationship'

I will hang out with my best friend when I want to
I will not hang off you all the time
I'm not going to love you and only you
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you are the only one
I'm not going to lie and say that I don't love others just as much as you or that I'll die without you.

Love is free and expects nothing. It has no conditions
stop perverting love

AMEN TO THAT! I like your views, SilverHaze.
Love never fades

Lauren

[Silverhaze]

I love everyone...I think that's why people irritate me so much. As far as relationships go, I don't have intimate relationships. I'm not into the idea of procreation-activities for fun, or because someone feels like it--which is probably why I'll die as a cat lady some day. lol. Why can't I just have a companion who can tolerate my BS and I can tolerate their BS, and we feel love but also know that alone time is very imporant. Every person I have tried a relationship with wants to be attached to my hip, always talking, wanting, needing, and then I show the slightest bit of comittment and they act like I have the plague. What a neusense. I'll just stick with loving everyone, and leave these relationships to the crazy people.

hmm that is kind of the relationship that me and my twin soul have
we are just like that which is what makes it so irresitable... I mean I seriously wouldn't mind messing around with him but we don't and that's cool cus that's not what loves about


Starseed I love that idea the smiling thing I think I'll start doing that too!

[Indigo Dog]

Starseed you are an advanced guru master of unconditional love.

[evergreen]

beautiful post silverhaze. u r a sweetheart.