Overwhelming to say the least! Thanks for sharing that with us. Like you, I see death as a transformation though it still affects me if it is someone I love and am close to. I have experienced alot of death in my life and I know some people like my husband who have experienced very little of it. I don't have any similar stories to share, but I just wanted to say that IMO there is no one way everyone "should" feel about death. Your reactions seem very appropriate to what you are experiencing. The only problem being that your friend may have expected more and the spirit certainly did... Maybe when the time is right you can explain to you friend what was happening in that moment and then relay the info her friend wanted her to know. Your gifts could be great tools for healing if you choose to use them in that way.