methods for healing from childhood sexual abuse

**evergreen** · 02-10-2009

I did the typical talk therapy that is supported by local agencies for years. I didn't seem to be getting to the root of things through that. I found out about a place called Trauma Recovery Institute. It is now called Intensive Trauma Therapy. The place is in West Virginia in the USA, but clinicians worldwide are aware of the technique developed at this institute by Dr. Louis Tinnin and Dr. Linda Gantt. It combines art therapy, hypnosis, and external dialogue to heal these wounds. It is also all video taped for you to watch again if need be. I was there for two weeks. They take on only one client at a time, and it is very intensive.

It was life changing...this therapy. I went thru it in 2006. It still takes time for your entire being to understand the healing process. It takes time for your system to understand there really is nothing to fear anymore. Currently, I am working these things out.

Anyone else have any experiences with any techniques?

**Tear_of_the_WoLF** · 02-10-2009

im not sure if i have experience with their "tecniques" but i can tell u i been through MANY....evergreen, do u have a messenger.....i would like to talk....not comfartable here on a forum.....

but i have a very very young history of sexual childhood abuse.

it has fucked my behavior and reactions completely.....and as im sure you've read before. im extremely sick of the tecniques, tactics, psychologists, therapists and what not....ive done so much and im so done.....love u hun

**ThetaAbundance** · 02-10-2009

I do, too.. PM me if/when you want.

Justin D. · 02-10-2009

I have a question, do any of you know if there are cases where people cannot remember the abuse but feel like it had happened. I have a very close friend who has these feelings and I myself have them. Are there behaviors that people exhibit when they are older that are signs of this? I have more details but its not really something I feel comfortable discussing in public.

**Tear_of_the_WoLF** · 02-10-2009

justin....i was 19 when i became aware of what happened..it was a ton of bricks...pm me...its very personal....but to answer your question...yes....

behaviors are a reaction sometimes to something burried so deep memory has blocked..i am living proof.

**ThetaAbundance** · 02-10-2009

Originally Posted by Justin D.

I have a question, do any of you know if there are cases where people cannot remember the abuse but feel like it had happened. I have a very close friend who has these feelings and I myself have them. Are there behaviors that people exhibit when they are older that are signs of this? I have more details but its not really something I feel comfortable discussing in public.

Most definitely does happen.

Not everyone remembers. I did not have full memories until I had my 2nd daughter, 2 months may be after she was born, which is normal for women to have flashbacks post-partum. I always knew, just did not have all the memories. I really doubt I could have handled what I was storing until that time.

This is interesting too. People can be sexualized and it have the same effects as being physically sexually abused. Why? What happens is someone will emotionally use a child or person as their outlet or a substitute for their emotional needs. In the end it has the same ramifications on certain people. Some people it seems to not affect them as severely as others.

There are people who have been sexually abused or raped that do not have such deep wounds as others.

**beautifulmind** · 02-10-2009

You know some about my story...for me it was typical talk therapy in combination with body and energy work. I also did some shamanic healing for a year and this helped tremendously too.

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**Tear_of_the_WoLF** · 02-10-2009

.......i will say....

what has happened has impacted my behavior, reactions.....

and i am unpredictable during sex....the slightest thing can set me off into ptsd...and its nobodys fault....

its sad....and there is nothing i can do at times...my exgf....god do i love her stilll....she is the only person that has ever been able to accept my moments .....and just hold me..or let me go if thats what i need....

last year for many months i used to wake up gasping and screaming....i wont say here what it was i was saying...but bless her soul to have the heart to deal with me.....she held me....she held me....and there is no one else i can say the same for.

anyway im getting deep. and vague....

much love.

**evergreen** · 02-10-2009

i want to read all your responses but i wanted to let you know i started this thread for another member here on is who is needing healing from this. i wanted anyone who knew of techniques that were helpful to share them so she could look into the techniques.

i know this thread will be helpful however it turns out.

**evergreen** · 02-10-2009

kaitlin, yea i have issues like that too. its so screwed up cause i would LOVE to enjoy it like others do. i feel ya on this big time.

justin, there are a lot of people who do not remember things until they are older or adults. some do not remember it until much later in life. i don't know any resources off the top of my head but it's easy enough to find on the internet.

tonya, my sister puts her daughters in extremely emotionally incestuous situations and this too is very sick and harmful.

we have a yahoo group that hasn't gotten active yet for indigoes with ptsd. if anyone is interested (you too justin...even if you aren't sure) in joining, let me know. some of you already have. it's just a few people from is on there. i would like to start a safe place where people can learn and support one another in this process.

much love.

oh, and i am njevergreen on yahoo messenger for anyone who would like to get in touch with me that way.

**cjmax02** · 02-10-2009

Originally Posted by Justin D.

I have a question, do any of you know if there are cases where people cannot remember the abuse but feel like it had happened. I have a very close friend who has these feelings and I myself have them. Are there behaviors that people exhibit when they are older that are signs of this? I have more details but its not really something I feel comfortable discussing in public.

I worry about this, to be honest. Sometimes I get this creeping feeling in the back of my head that maybe something bad like that happened to me. But I don't know for sure, I don't have any memories, never had a flashback.

Just always had this mistrust of certain places/people. :s Either I've picked up on a vibration in that area - that maybe someone was abused in that place, or maybe that person was an abuser - or it's something I blocked out.

It wouldn't be the first time I've lost memories.

**ThetaAbundance** · 02-10-2009

Justin, wanted to let you know that you can google signs of sexual abuse in adults..

Unfortunately, abuse is abuse, so someone may have the same signs of sexual abuse, as any other form. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, drugs/alcohol addiction, clinging in relationships, fear of sex, flashbacks, PTSD (freezing, running, panic/anxiety). Inability to get too close or if feels too close changes personality.

I tend to notice it in women more than men, men seem to hide it better.

EDIT: Here is a site I just found.. it's really hard to find anything except signs of a child being sexually abused. Weird. I mean, we do grow up. Sexual-abuse-signs

**Tear_of_the_WoLF** · 02-10-2009

i was going to say "i hate my life"...but i really dont.

i just dont appreciate what life has dealt me.....cause i cant quite control it.....

ah im drunk.

im done. but i mean it.