I Was Thinking...

[Silverhaze]

Do you have someone that you tell every thought to? Well except for the ones you share, that are mutually understood and don't need to be verbalized?

I was just thinking about this earlier... I realized when I'm with Love we always 'think' out loud. Anything that is on our minds is pretty much said aloud. Half the time we don't need to say it because we are both thinking it.

When we are with close friends, we have this unspoken communication. I don't even remember learning it, or agreeing on signals but they are there... a glance and click I know exactly what he is thinking, it's like having a separate private conversation on the side.

I knew we have good communication... but I have good communication with most the people I am close with, but this weekend when a mutual friend was staying with us, well I found that although my communication with her was good, it wasn't at the same level. I don't really know how to explain.

We haven't really worked at it... we've worked through emotions and such but as far as communication goes, we just clicked and suddenly I'm noticing how much of a difference it is compared to other relationships in my life.

It's strange to, I thought perhaps it was just because we are around each other so much, but in the summer we usually go at least 2 months without really seeing each other. We still have phone conversations when I have the time, but it's not that much.
Then when we are together again, click it's back to the same level of communication.

I pick up the phone before it rings, and we always call each other just when the other needs someone to talk to or has something important to tell... I'm not complaining. It's amazing to be so close and have such wonderful communication. I'm sure it's all part of the twin connection, it's just that something he said the other day kind of unnerved me.

'I keep looking for the kind of communication we have and I know we just clicked, but I'm willing to work to get to this point, but it's like nothing I ever try works..."

It was that fear that he'll never be able to communicate with someone else the way we communicate. It's not a fear that I have, I don't really care if he's the only one that I can go so deep with, but to him it's very important to find that in his romantic relationships.

It makes me wonder I suppose... how others see us. Not related by blood, not married, not 'together', just friends but with this intimacy and open communication and unconditional and unwavering love for one another... I wonder is it inspiring? or unnerving?

I'm use to people avoiding me, fearing me, but when I'm with him it doesn't matter, none of that stuff matters. I feel totally free. I never worry about being alone, because I know he'll always be there in one way or another.

I find it kind of funny how he's scared yet at the same time he never pushes me away. He doesn't understand our connection and to be honest I don't completely understand it either, but that doesn't seem to matter because it is undeniably real all the same...

hmm well I suppose now I've gone much off topic in my own thread
*sigh* lol well tangents are sometimes healthy, reflection is healthy.
Sorry for dragging on loves.

[Dabbs]

I love you, Silver.


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I connect with a few people that way. My friend Linda and I do that... Hubby doesn't have a clue what I'm thinking.... which can be hysterical!

Debbie and I do that, too.... I pick up the phone before she calls..
and my mom and I do the same.

I've been really blessed with wonderful people around me. Two of my sons know what I'm thinking a lot of the time....

[Patryc]

grins, I get that way with Shelby and a few other people too, it's kinda fun. Sometimes it's like we don't need to talk. It's all there already. Just enjoy the touch.

[builderofcastles]

If you do not automatically click, then you can get good at communicating,
however, you will have to work at it and you will have to learn a lot about
communicating.

On that note:

Telepathy is interesting, and most people think of it as like a phone call
without the phone. If telepathy is only this, then communication is as lousy
as it would be on the phone, but a little more convenient. If both of the
people involved can hear their spirit guides and both of them can reach a
deep level of meditation, then those two can develop telepathy.

Communication happens by you vibrating and intending to send that vibrating
to the intended person. This vibration can have any information in it.
Any subpart of your universe. It cannot contain anything that you do not
know about. So, you send out this vibration with certain emotions and information
in it. And the person who receives it, breaks it down and interprets it into their
own universe. (your universe and their universe are not the same)

Understanding of the other person is important.
So, to communicate well, you need to work out each others needs.
You need to work out their basic desires. What type are they on the enneagram?
What type are they on the myers-briggs? Guys are preprogrammed to protect
the important people in their life, is he being protective or overly protective?
Do you allow him to get his protective fix?
There are seven basic avenues of love. Some people need to hear it "I love you"
others need to be touched, still others need to see signs of it (a diamond bracelet
for me? squeeee) Do you know which your partner needs? Which your partner
likes?
Do you understand when to call them? Some people are so focussed that they
can't/shouldn't be bothered at work. But they are in a relationship with someone
who needs to hear "I love you" several times a day, so they will need to 'schedule'
time to call, or work out something where they do not forget. Its all about
timing, and working out the correlation of feelings you are receiving (empathy)
with timings.

Lexicon is meanings of words. You would think with telepathy you wouldn't have
to work out the meanings of words, and you would be kinda right. In telepathy
you can send thought pictures (one of the easiest telepathy training exercises)
however, what does the picture mean? The picture has meaning based on many
experiences you had in your life. Your partner does not share these experiences.
Fortunately they have had similar experiences and so, you talk and you soon get
to understand eachother. Talk with specific forms that allow you to figure out
each others lexicon creates an even stronger bond and communicational ease.

Then, after all of this, learning to speak telepathically is just learning to tune
into their vibration at distance. Just like tuning a radio. Didn't know you had
a radio did you? And which button is the tuning? You will have to work on it.
And you have to work on it together. Often with silly games like, ok, what card
am I holding?

Enjoy

BuilderOfCastles

---------- Post added at 07:31 PM ---------- Previous post was at 07:30 PM ----------

BTW: all of this expands your universe.

[Adongala]

hmmm.... well i say whats on my mind around 95% of the time lol. I type as I think it.. so often it can become choppy too lol. But I don't think there is anyone who knows all my thoughts and experiences, tho I hope someday I will be close enough to someone to do so, and have it reciprocated.