Relationships.

[kahli]

I was wondering what kind of romantic relationships other indigos share, and what kind of lover they are. I've been in a one and a half year relationship now and I adore original romantic gestures, yet I have trouble expressing my love sometimes. I get jealous easy, but I normally hide it. I need ultimate devotion, but I don't beg for it. And I need him to be the same person around me that he is around everyone else.

[TheRavenMother]

My ex said I was aggressive and kind of scary sometimes. But I think its just passion... he was weird with women anyways, had issues and a bloody cheek calling me aggressive!

[Thomas12]

Uncapable of a relationship though I have many friends. I put it to my last past life when my wife killed me as I had many affairs. Before I was abused by my mother in an other life (this seems all very real to me as I learnt to realize mjy past lifes, now, that really sucks). Today, I have not one affair and plus I am ambivalent. I consider it a mess and I feel sick of it. Apparently I dont really trust women and have to learn. I have not found a match of any sort.

Please comment if you wish.

[blueangel0012]

Trust is just something that is earned.Takes a long time to earn it, and minutes to destroy it.I think that is what makes it so hard.

[Indigo Traveler]

just broke recently!

[Puffywaun]

I would describe them as difficult. As much time as I spend in my own head, I find it very difficult not to emotionalize attachments based on immediate needs rather than on qualities that I want in a partner long term. This can cause a lot of hurt feelings in the long run. I had to learn to step out of idealizations of a person, and their "roles" in my life to connect with the real person underneath. Up until two years ago, I could not find a partner who did not idealize me in some way or build roles for me in their life and see me as ONLY that. When I let go of my own tenancy to do this to others - I found exactly what I was looking for. Now, we are both being very careful with our relationship, nurturing it, protecting it and, working on it daily.

[Hon_y_b]

Married and divorced my husband, nothing in common. I was his mother and caregiver in the relationship.
Second time around with my partner who I thought was the love of my life. Little did I know that he had many loves out there. Thru prayer and meditation I was told, " Leave him you will be alright," Remained alone for nearly 7 years until I met bachelor number three thru his brother. We have been together for 2 years and I believe he to is Indigo. Our lives parallel each other, "Like 2 peas in a pod." lol

[Thomas12]

Married and divorced my husband, nothing in common. I was his mother and caregiver in the relationship.
Second time around with my partner who I thought was the love of my life. Little did I know that he had many loves out there. Thru prayer and meditation I was told, " Leave him you will be alright," Remained alone for nearly 7 years until I met bachelor number three thru his brother. We have been together for 2 years and I believe he to is Indigo. Our lives parallel each other, "Like 2 peas in a pod." lol

The now status sounds very good, congrats.

[i_c_nina]

I was wondering what kind of romantic relationships other indigos share, and what kind of lover they are. I've been in a one and a half year relationship now and I adore original romantic gestures, yet I have trouble expressing my love sometimes. I get jealous easy, but I normally hide it. I need ultimate devotion, but I don't beg for it. And I need him to be the same person around me that he is around everyone else.

I hear ya. I see my self the same. In my current relationship my partner has distroyed my trust by sleeping with another woman. I was temperary distroyed. But, I relized. I DONT need someone eles to complete me. Its just nice to have someone like minded to enjoy the ride with.
And trying to 'deal' with him more looking on the outside I can see I covered up too much and sacrifed too much. I deserve a great friendship with a man that loves life and nature and respects all that as much as me..

Things happen to us for a reason. Take the lesson in it and learn from it. Live life for you and if you bump into a traveler along the way thats great, if they are trash dump them off at the curb. To put it nicely.. lol

Life is too short for drama and hang ups. Live your life and enjoy what blessings has come your way. There is beautiy in everything even in all nasty disasters... Sometimes our hearts can take a beating, but its okay. We are human one way or another.. LOL
HUGS!!

[sunblissed8]

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[Thomas12]

Right, I am in deep relationship with myself. I sometimes forget this was my overall goal for my life.

I married my higher self and am pretty happy this way. OK, sometimes I feel lonely..

[sunblissed8]

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[Thomas12]

Well dear Thomas.

Everyone's connected, so I guess we all get a little lonely without lots of personal or physical contact. I did for the 10 years on my own. But I still feel lonely now at times. I guess some experiences are on our own whether we have a partner or not.

But hey guess what? In alot of ways when I first met my partner, he pretty much said the same things you did And well, I just find him adorable.

Perhaps you are adorable as well??...actually I do not question it.

Happy on own /happy with someone. All's a huge challenge either way at times. Perhaps not for some?? Has been for me.

Love and hugs

Thanx a lot. This give me comfort and hope that I migt get it done not to be lonely any longer and find a partner . Maybe someone her in my town will like the way I am.

Blessings to you.

[GeoSpirit]

I've spent more of my time alone than in a relationship myself and while in one it's kind of been hit and miss, mostly to the later.
I think trust starts with ourselves and when we don't fully trust others it reverberates throughout everything else.
Like you Thomas I have been working on my relationship with myself these past few years and just this past while a funny thing has occurred,
I am finding men who want to feed me (a very primal thing), mainly in this past month (both strangers and old acquaintances).
I guess something has shifted inside of me.

I just finished reading this message from Kryon, I think it's very insightful and to be honest with everyone, the way out of this whole mess we are in:

http://www.kryon.org.za/ChannellingNo287.htm

Love & Light

[Thomas12]

Hey GeoSpirit

Thanx, I will read the Kryon channeling. I hope for the shift within me, so that I am open for relationship.

Blessings to ya

[GeoSpirit]

I think you are already on the right track Thomas!
I think that clearing out our past is paramount to dealing with the resistance,
here's to hoping the good ol' romps come your way soon! *giggles*

[Zen]

I've never really been one for doing relationships. To me, they take up too much valuable time and restrict one's own freedom. Having said that, I would love to feel 'loved' by the right partner who understands but until that happens, if ever, I'm happy (mostly) to be alone.

[EnemyAtLineSix]

fetal spooning,chivalry,nerdyness

[sunblissed8]

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