Independence v. relationships?

[Zen]

OK here's the thing! I have a deep-down desire and need to be alone a lot, to be independent, and to be free to do whatever I want and when I want. Maybe selfish I know but I can't help it, it's the way I am! But on the other hand, I have this need to be with people who understand me and to share life and experiences with, both in terms of friendship and relationships.

My question is, how do others balance their need for these two extremes? I've never had that many true friendships, friends have come and gone, even the good ones, just through a lack of proper connection I guess. I've always stayed clear of relationships through fear and hatred of being tied down, but I still long for that one true person???

[EnemyAtLineSix]

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[Zen]

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Hmmm, that sounds good - friends and that special someone who want the same things I do! lol

[anthony]

OK here's the thing! I have a deep-down desire and need to be alone a lot, to be independent, and to be free to do whatever I want and when I want. Maybe selfish I know but I can't help it, it's the way I am! But on the other hand, I have this need to be with people who understand me and to share life and experiences with, both in terms of friendship and relationships.

My question is, how do others balance their need for these two extremes? I've never had that many true friendships, friends have come and gone, even the good ones, just through a lack of proper connection I guess. I've always stayed clear of relationships through fear and hatred of being tied down, but I still long for that one true person???

i know how u feel. i also have the desire of freedom as well. but ive been lacking true friendships my entire life so now days, i long for them. I have always, for the most part, been alone. For many reasons, its hard for me to make friends. Very lonely.

As far as balance...just know that other people are good for you, if they are good energy. You can rely on them, have someone to listen to you and spend time with you, offer you ideas, feed your ideas, give you spiritual strength, and so on. Just realize how much of a positive benefit they can be to you. The good ones. So...dont look at it so much as being tied down..you dont have to b with them 24/7...just look at it as something to strengthen ur spirit.

[Juice]

I agree with eals, independent relationships are the Ideal.

I feel one can learn things very fast in romantic relationships,big growth, particulary if they live together, because of the mirror thing. Good lessons in non-judgement, allowing another to be who they are, with out judgeing them, unconditional Love etc.

True freinds for me are rare on earth, well for me they are, for me my interpretation of a true freind,(and I know ther are many interpreations of a true freind) But my understanding what that means, is a soul that I know from the begining and through all the higher worlds,its a very sacred relationship indeed, so I feel real true friends are rare on earth to find. When I fully understood that, it didnt hurt as much as it used to.

Although, good dear freinds are not as rare, but even they can be few and far between.I feel blessed to have a few.

Light and Love to ALL.

[Zen]

Many thanks anthony and Juice for you reassuring words! I guess I already know these things deepdown but it feels so much better to get confirmation from others! Thank you!

[sshenry]

I feel one can learn things very fast in romantic relationships,big growth, particulary if they live together, because of the mirror thing. Good lessons in non-judgement, allowing another to be who they are, with out judgeing them, unconditional Love etc.

True freinds for me are rare on earth, well for me they are, for me my interpretation of a true freind,(and I know ther are many interpreations of a true freind) But my understanding what that means, is a soul that I know from the begining and through all the higher worlds,its a very sacred relationship indeed, so I feel real true friends are rare on earth to find. When I fully understood that, it didnt hurt as much as it used to.

Although, good dear freinds are not as rare, but even they can be few and far between.I feel blessed to have a few.

Romantic relationships are wonderful for growth. I have ended up with a rare gem of a man who is open-minded and accepting, even of things he can't begin to understand (like the concept of indigos). This can be very lonely at times, because I can't talk to him about myself - although I can give him 'hypothetical' situations which he resonds to very well, but I wouldn't trade him for anything. He is a true friend, even if there is the one thing we can't talk about.

[Shadow]

I can relate to what is being said here. I care for my girlfriend very much as we have been together nearly a year now, but i know that i couldnt bring up the subject of indigos as she just wouldnt understand.

Nice to know other people can relate to what being an indigo child feels like