Okay so I've been talking to this guy for a few months now. Here recently we've decided to officially become a couple. Everything has been good and he has been so sweet. However last night we were talking and now I have some of my warning flags raised.
I already knew he was a little bit jealous. Although that's okay, a little bit of jealousy isn't a problem for me. However it started out I was talking about joining a fitness club called Curves. This is a workout place for women. He asked me if there were any male trainers, which there isn't. It's just women there. So I was teasing him about his jealousy. I told him he would have about died when I was taking my martial arts classes since I was the only woman in them. We joked about that. So I asked him if he was going to get mad when I signed up for martial arts again at some point. He joked about it at first, but I could tell this bothered him. When I inquired further he finally said that he didn't know if he could be with someone who wanted to take a class where I would be around all kinds of men like that. Needless to say, this took me by surprise. He said that me working with men didn't bother him, but that those classes really hit a nerve for him. I think it must be the physical aspect required, but he didn't really say. The most I could get out of him was when he finally said that to him, me taking those classes while we were together would be like if he took a job as a guy who greased up playmates. I asked him if something happened before to make him feel that way. He responded that he didn't like talking about things that happened in the past. So I'm assuming that's a yes.
I asked him, if at any point in the future I became uncomfortable with something he was doing or someplace he was going out of jealousy, even if the situation was entirely innocent and I was completely misinterpreting things, would he be willing to stop as well. He said, "Without hesistation, no questions asked."
So what do you all think? Guys, how would you all feel about your wives or girlfriends being around men in a martial arts class they were taking? Would any of you feel so strongly about it? Girls, have you all had a guy you were with make a similar request? How did that turn out?
Am I being silly to be bothered by this? After all its not like he's expecting any different from me than he would be willing to do himself. I don't have a lot of experience with serious relationships, so I'm still trying to get a feel for the ropes. I know successful relationships consist of both give and take from both parties. Should I just chalk this up to the same kind of thing, or should I view this as a warning sign of unreasonable demands and jealousy to come. Any advise?