Common Indigo Adult Mistakes and how to avoid them

[Indigo Tree]

I continued that until I ended up in a psychatric hospital.

[OnceMorewithFeeling]

Thank you for these pearls of wisdom

[OnceMorewithFeeling]

thanks for posting this, I really really needed to read this ( coming up pre- internet I've got plenty of battle scars ) but the thing is I'm still adding to my collection!

[zola28]

There are too many moody people at work and as roommates, and I don't know how to get away from them when they are very outspoken and asserative. I don't ask their opinions.

[MYSTIKDRAGON]

I bet this thread has helped alot of people that have passed thru..

[iamme]

Wonderful post. Thank you much.

[BlueWolf]

Yes, I can see myself in just about that entire list. It seems that I keep getting the message from The Universe to slow down too. You think I would get the point instead of continuing to run myself down. I think the main problem I have right now is that I lack recreation and any kind of fun activities. Why do we have the need the “take on the world” in spite of our own well being anyway?


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[Indigo Dog]

I came across another one today. Probably not just an Indigo pitfall. I think it applies to most spiritually minded people. That driving need to know that you are on the right path or calling.

I am convinced that whatever you are doing and being is your path. You are your path. Your calling is to just be your most excellent self.

[breshine]

I wish my mother would finally get this but I think she just can't imagine being any other way anymore. My mother is in her late 50's now and I'm pretty convinced she is a first waver. Everything you just described is the story of her life. I'm prone to follow in her foot steps but I've seen what all it has done to my mother...how it has consumed her whole life and I have been able to stop a lot of that stuff even if it still took me years to do it. My mother mine as well have a tap installed in every vein in her body so that all her leeches she has collected will have an easier access to drain her with. She is all ways saving the world at her expense.

My mother, too!!

Saving the world at her expense! Sounds exactly like her, and me, actually!

I'm glad I am aware of all these things at a young age, for it's hard for her to stop these habits and be aware of them.

[BlueWolf]

A couple of people at my job seem to have a problem, confused, about this "no" word that I've picked up recently. These are co-workers and not the boss. The boss actually understands because she sees it too. Things like flling all the extra shifts because the others have something else to do then (like I don’t..) and getting the additional work done that they didn’t complete. I just got to a point recently were I felt that a couple people at work were just relying on me to pick up that slack at work just a little too often. Do we just overcompensate for others naturally? Do we often perceiving others as underperforming simply because we always strive to do more ourselves? Should we expect others to “step up” when we feel that they are slacking off?

[Psychic Child]

Yep,
The polite No, "I really can't . . .I have enough to do" is called for here,
[unless compensation is given "double time"?
Is there a Union?

You Boss is part of the problem or is the problem,
because you pick up the slack, she doesn't have
to say anything to them. She likes that.

Be careful though.
you have set a president
by being helpful before.
Makes it tougher to change.

Be in harmony,
be in beauty.
roger.

[LH919]

A couple of people at my job seem to have a problem, confused, about this "no" word that I've picked up recently. These are co-workers and not the boss. The boss actually understands because she sees it too. Things like flling all the extra shifts because the others have something else to do then (like I don’t..) and getting the additional work done that they didn’t complete. I just got to a point recently were I felt that a couple people at work were just relying on me to pick up that slack at work just a little too often. Do we just overcompensate for others naturally? Do we often perceiving others as underperforming simply because we always strive to do more ourselves? Should we expect others to “step up” when we feel that they are slacking off?

Congrats on finding your 'no'

and I would advise on 'yes'

telling them to step up and have some

work ethic and integrity

and bust their narcicist sytem

in one fell swoop.

That is no mistake

The mistake is thinking that

as an 'indigo'

we are meant to just rise above

and accept all the BS as it is.

[LH919]

meh as for the rest of the OP

sounds like a bunch of

unbalanced self abosrbed

actions geared toward

creating seperation

and an unwarrented sense of

self importance.

It's good to say no once in a while

good to have accountability

not so good deciding you are

above and beyond everyone else.

[Kazuma]

Its k to say your "no's" and "yes" as long as it always come from ones Harmony. As people we need to be a lot more understanding about every situation and by saying that I think we "always" need to see both the good and the bad side of the situation at hand in order to make the best possible decision for a positive outcome... unfortunately this can only be achived if both parties are open minded and respectful.

[g00dbarge]

def good read here

[starlitangel913]

I love this post. It's something we all need to reminded of. Forever in my life I have been a caregiver and sacrificed a ton of my life for others. We are always more than willing to give as Indigo's for sure.

It was something that I learned after the passing of both parents, taking care of me is important too.

Blessings,

Angela

[myuniverse8]

great info!thank you,this is more insight not on who i am but how to live a more fulfilling experience a a indigo,awesom

[StarRiaWolf]

Ticks, leaches, vampires and moody downers-
There is a temptation to allow these types into our lives as we gain in talent and power. In hopeing to carry along these broken and wounded people in the wake of our spiritual abilities we collect them like stray kittens and baby birds.

Sorry but I come under this catagory of leach, vampire and moody downer. I know people see me as this, long before I recognised it. Now I why I was so unsuccesful finding friends, love and happiness. Because they quickly dumped me early. It's horrible to admit that on a new forum but I'm learning about this subject. Although I do believe that I share much in common with other indigo people, I also see myself as a failure and possibly a nasty individual like the above listed .

[Indigo Dog]

Sorry but I come under this catagory of leach, vampire and moody downer. I know people see me as this, long before I recognised it. Now I why I was so unsuccesful finding friends, love and happiness. Because they quickly dumped me early. It's horrible to admit that on a new forum but I'm learning about this subject. Although I do believe that I share much in common with other indigo people, I also see myself as a failure and possibly a nasty individual like the above listed .

Being able to acknowledge that you might want to improve and move on is a huge revelation. We all have our "moments" and I'd be a liar if I didn't admit to indulging in my dark side too. The thing is that we are all constantly testing and challenging how we live and define ourselves.

You, better than anyone will be able to spot energy vampires from a mile off because you know how they operate. You will be spared the tedious heartbreak of being used because you have Indigo Street Smarts. I have read some of your posts and find that you are sensitive and compassionate. Perhaps your only failure is in not being a totally heartless energy vampire.*laff*

As long as there is breath and hope there is potential to create any kind of life you want. I like you. I think you will discover that the best parts of you take up more spiritual space than the parts you don't care for.

[irichard]

Great Stuff! I too, will be rereading this thread to remind myself that I have to stay alive to be of any use to G-D and mankind. I certainly have been stripped to the bone (a healthy weight for me is 180, weighed myself yesterday--150) And people want more from me!? I think the solution is to interface with other givers and stay away from the takers. Mutual supportive relationships. Although it goes against my very nature, I've learned to say "What's in it for me!" It is like coughing up a brick--but I...well, actually, I'm still trying to learn how to say it.
"When in Rome do as the Romans do." When in France speak French. You gotta talk to 'em in a language that they understand. Although I shy away from using the Anglo-Saxon (I consider such language harsh, brutal, violent, and unkind) I like what the young person posted:

From ssky, "I told a leechy/bossy/abusive friend of mine to fuck off and I never talked to them again and I don't feel guilty about it"

I love what that little pitbull said! Direct, simple, to the point, and it works. I quess she has learned from watching the older generation and now I, an old timer, need to learn from a younger generation. What's old is new, and what's new is what's old. The Old teach the young and then the young teach the old--Kool!
I'm going to work on memorizing that phrase, "F--- O--!"
ssky--Thanks for your useful post.