Ignored by people

[Amoeba]

I remember someone else posting a thread about this. I didn't think much of it at the time. I don't remember where the thread is though and IS search feature won't allow me to search for it to find solutions that may be there (search feature really needs to be fixed)

These days, IS is pretty much the only forum where my posts don't get totally ignored and I actually get some intelligent responses. I make many new threads and posts on other forums and, well... lets just say they forever stay with 0 replies, or maybe 1 person comes to reply at best.

In real life, I am ignored by people I should be working with and talking with. I can even start to shout thinking they can't hear me and they don't even bat an eye, or look my way or anything. Even when I'm loudly asking questions. It's as if they genuinely don't even know I'm there. Even things like "excuse me can I get past" I have to repeat over and over again louder and louder until people kind of snap out of it and notice I've been trying to speak to them for ages. It really is like they jump and go "oh dear, were you trying to speak to me?" like they really didn't know.


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Trying to just speak to people normally is even harder. Like just chatting... I am never heard or acknowledged, except by a few select people who already know me well.

I know that in the past I was too quiet. But I really feel I have fixed the problem with the volume of my voice, it has become much louder and clearer and I'm no longer afraid to shout when I'm not heard and when there's too much background noise. Still it doesn't seem to help.

Then, strangely enough, out and about I seem to get a lot of unwanted attention. Abuse, insults, "OH MY GOD look at her whisper whisper whisper" (<-- this one happens so often it's unbelievable) complete strangers taking an instant disliking just by seeing me and walking past. I try to not let it get to me or take it personally but it's still very unnerving and draining when it happens so frequently. Older people however seem to smile at me a lot and say hello or good morning/afternoon, which is a nice change.

But, when I actually intend to communicate with people it's like they just see right through me, unless it's someone behind a counter and I'm buying something.

I thought I had left this problem behind years ago.

How can I make myself more approachable, and help people to see and hear me when the need comes to communicate with them?

[Squawk]

I remember someone else posting a thread about this. I didn't think much of it at the time. I don't remember where the thread is though and IS search feature won't allow me to search for it to find solutions that may be there (search feature really needs to be fixed)

These days, IS is pretty much the only forum where my posts don't get totally ignored and I actually get some intelligent responses. I make many new threads and posts on other forums and, well... lets just say they forever stay with 0 replies, or maybe 1 person comes to reply at best.

In real life, I am ignored by people I should be working with and talking with. I can even start to shout thinking they can't hear me and they don't even bat an eye, or look my way or anything. Even when I'm loudly asking questions. It's as if they genuinely don't even know I'm there. Even things like "excuse me can I get past" I have to repeat over and over again louder and louder until people kind of snap out of it and notice I've been trying to speak to them for ages. It really is like they jump and go "oh dear, were you trying to speak to me?" like they really didn't know.

Trying to just speak to people normally is even harder. Like just chatting... I am never heard or acknowledged, except by a few select people who already know me well.

I know that in the past I was too quiet. But I really feel I have fixed the problem with the volume of my voice, it has become much louder and clearer and I'm no longer afraid to shout when I'm not heard and when there's too much background noise. Still it doesn't seem to help.

Then, strangely enough, out and about I seem to get a lot of unwanted attention. Abuse, insults, "OH MY GOD look at her whisper whisper whisper" (<-- this one happens so often it's unbelievable) complete strangers taking an instant disliking just by seeing me and walking past. I try to not let it get to me or take it personally but it's still very unnerving and draining when it happens so frequently. Older people however seem to smile at me a lot and say hello or good morning/afternoon, which is a nice change.

But, when I actually intend to communicate with people it's like they just see right through me, unless it's someone behind a counter and I'm buying something.

I thought I had left this problem behind years ago.

How can I make myself more approachable, and help people to see and hear me when the need comes to communicate with them?

Hi there..
Sorry don't have time to reply properly right now - but this might be the thread you were looking for?
Persona-non-grata

[Amoeba]

Not this one exactly, but it could still help a lot. Thanks for the link!

[FirstWave]

It seems as if, if you don't have a 'big personality', drama in your life or your not seeking attention through whatever means you are ignored. That is only the outside world ignoring you but inside there is a lot going on and the soul will never be ignored.

[Spyder]

I get this too. I think perhaps you choose it on some level, because i hate being in the limelight so to speak and have opted for invisibility. Now i only get noticed when I want to, it's all about how you work your energy. I can't really explain how to, it's one of those things that you need to figure out yourself.
One small tip however is if you want to be noticed, or make an impression whilst speaking in public, raise your energy levels as high as possible and channel it towards your throat chakra. It works really well.Last time I did it ( i was reading a poem at a funeral) i had people coming up to me and asking if I did drama/acting. I dont.

With the whole excuse me, can i get past thing channel your energy towards the other person. Ever notice when someone's staring at you? (research torsion fields) well it works in kinda the same way. If someone doesn't notice you and then a load of your energy comes at them, they will pay attention.
Also on a more mundane note, practice projecting your voice, i used to have this problem as i wasn't talking loud enough, so it wouldn't properly register-but don't shout

The OMG look at her probably stems from indigo-ness. I don't know of anything you can do about this apart from shrug it off.

love & light

[ekati]

I have zero/1 reply in IS too, and that is why I do not open threads as frequently as I would like, I know people will not answer. That happens to me in other forums too yes! What does that mean... tho... dunno... Maybe I just do not say interesting things or subjects that people do not find worthy or resonating with their exp

[ZZ23]

its all about the energy you embody.. you always have to give people something to remember you by. Personally - I am remembered wherever I go as being loud- and for being a good guy, and a walking encyclopedia.

Spark-

[Indigo Dog]

Indigo Dog's List to dial Up Your Visibility-

If you find that you are often ignored and overlooked, almost invisible then consider yourself lucky. Some people never learn how to dial it down enough to become invisible. Invisibility is a useful skill, like when you are trying to drift away from a crowd of armed robbers without notice. However, if you find that you can't draw any attention or attract people in a pleasing way it feels very isolating. Let's fix that right now.

1. You are mostly energy. A commanding presence is less about physical appearance and more about projection. Picture Robert Deniro whispering something and everyone pays attention. Before you try to wait till somebody sees you do the energy work. Visualize how you will approach the person and talk to them. Picture the response you would like to get from the encounter. Approach with a clear goal in mind.

2. Observe people in a loving attitude. I always try to look for something nice to compliment someone about. Even if I don't get an opportunity to tell them how nice they look today, they can pick up on the kindness of the energy and enjoy basking in it. People will be drawn to you, more receptive and attentive to you when they feel welcomed and accepted by your attitude.

3. Stop looking for more evidence of how people ignore you. Start putting your attention on times when someone talks to you. Notice when others are attentive. Be appreciative of those moments and they will occur more often. ( Law of Attraction)

4. Watch and copy the mannerisms of those who seem to command attention. I learned how to do this when I was studying police officers for a role I was trying out for. Some people naturally command attention, without uttering a word. Copy them until you can identify how to turn it on and off.

5. Pay more attention to yourself. Look more often at your reflection. Talk to yourself in the mirror. Practice different facial expressions. It isn't uncommon for Indigo people to be slightly Asperger syndromy, so you may need to coach yourself into having a more expressive face.

6. Project a welcoming energy. Make people feel safe around you. Treat people the same way you would like to treat a Golden Retriever puppy.

7. When someone blows you off, try to feel where their energy is coming from. Many times when I am ignored or even snubbed I will discover that they are too angry, hurt, bitter to be able to resonate with my positive vibration. I piss them off by being near them. They are dead set on being miserable and I am a disrupting positive force on their mood. so, I move to a different location or look for harmonious energy with which to do business.

8. Meditation can help you master your energy levels. You can learn to dial it up or down over time.

[dmstarck]

Hi Amoeba, I think this was the thread:
http://indigosociety.com/showthread....discrimination

[Optimystic]

Attention is overrated. On here, you get 150 replies for talking about absolutely nothing.

[ekati]

Indigo Dog's List to dial Up Your Visibility-

Treat people the same way you would like to treat a Golden Retriever puppy.

u must be kidding me!!! I would start hugging and giggling and picking up from the ground, and kiss their noses, and pat their belly looooooooool

[ekati]

about the mirror thing, I always avoided it, that is why I am surprised every time I see my face on a photo or in a mirror. hahahaha And they have told me that I am too expressive with my face, and I think that happened because I found out early in my life that people could not understand me easily and I somewhat lowered myself to reach them