I remember someone else posting a thread about this. I didn't think much of it at the time. I don't remember where the thread is though and IS search feature won't allow me to search for it to find solutions that may be there (search feature really needs to be fixed)
These days, IS is pretty much the only forum where my posts don't get totally ignored and I actually get some intelligent responses. I make many new threads and posts on other forums and, well... lets just say they forever stay with 0 replies, or maybe 1 person comes to reply at best.
In real life, I am ignored by people I should be working with and talking with. I can even start to shout thinking they can't hear me and they don't even bat an eye, or look my way or anything. Even when I'm loudly asking questions. It's as if they genuinely don't even know I'm there. Even things like "excuse me can I get past" I have to repeat over and over again louder and louder until people kind of snap out of it and notice I've been trying to speak to them for ages. It really is like they jump and go "oh dear, were you trying to speak to me?" like they really didn't know.
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Trying to just speak to people normally is even harder. Like just chatting... I am never heard or acknowledged, except by a few select people who already know me well.
I know that in the past I was too quiet. But I really feel I have fixed the problem with the volume of my voice, it has become much louder and clearer and I'm no longer afraid to shout when I'm not heard and when there's too much background noise. Still it doesn't seem to help.
Then, strangely enough, out and about I seem to get a lot of unwanted attention. Abuse, insults, "OH MY GOD look at her whisper whisper whisper" (<-- this one happens so often it's unbelievable) complete strangers taking an instant disliking just by seeing me and walking past. I try to not let it get to me or take it personally but it's still very unnerving and draining when it happens so frequently. Older people however seem to smile at me a lot and say hello or good morning/afternoon, which is a nice change.
But, when I actually intend to communicate with people it's like they just see right through me, unless it's someone behind a counter and I'm buying something.
I thought I had left this problem behind years ago.
How can I make myself more approachable, and help people to see and hear me when the need comes to communicate with them?