[QUOTE=FirstWave;656437]So I have notice that there is two inside of me. The spiritual part and the ego part that comes up when certain things are triggered. The ego is giving me trouble. [/QUOTE]
"Ego defines you as individuals, gives each one of you the different personality you have - Ego is a useful "tool" that you have to use it wisely, neither under the limit nor above it. Find the balance"
This is a channeled message from my spirit guide. Ego is NOT something different from you - it's YOU. It's a part of you and you have to find the balance so as to make it work properly. You are not 2 different persons, your behavior in some situations may vary but don't forget we are humans. We make mistakes and we learn from them.
[QUOTE=FirstWave;656437] They are having a lot of changes at work because of budget cuts. Some were laid off and some were given a retirement incentive and my immediate supervisor took the incentive and he is to leave at the end of the month. Management has not made any plans on what will happen to his job. I was hoping for a chance for his position. Today I find out that they have given all my supervisors duties to a co-worker temporary or maybe they are grooming him for the position. That is my feelings on it. My ego is just horrified because this individual sexually harassed and bullied me in the past and now he is learning my supervisors duties and will probably be promoted. I actually tried to file sexual harassment charges against him but my work did not like me doing that. I went outside the system and then they wanted to help me with it but all that happened was a mediated meeting where I told him how I did not like what he had done. Everybody 'loves' him in the office and he is good buddies with a lot of higher ups. He also has sexual affairs with many of the women in the office which is totally overlooked and many girls are his groupies. I am furious and want to quit! My ego wants to quit immediately.
I would like to open up my own business but know nothing on how to do it and not sure what I want to do. I am in my 50's and not sure how to go about all of this. Any advice would be appreciated. Please help me see this from the spiritual lens. What is this reflecting about me? I just can't see it but I hate corporate america.
Where did my spirituality go? This is not acting as a spiritual being! I should be happy for this guy and just not let it get to me. Help![/QUOTE]
Some of the effects a sexual harassment victim can experience:
* Decreased work or school performance as the victim must focus on dealing with the
harassment and the surrounding dynamics and/or effects; psychological effects of harassment
can also decrease work and school performance
* Increased absenteeism to avoid harassment, or because of illness from the stress
* Having to drop courses, or change academic plans; academic transcripts may be weakened
because of decreased school performance
* Retaliation from the harasser, or colleagues/friends of the harasser, should the victim complain
or file a grievance (retaliation can involve revenge along with more sexual harassment, and often
involves stalking the complainant)
* Having one's personal life offered up for public scrutiny --the victim becomes the "accused," and
their dress, lifestyle, and private life will often come under attack. (Note: this rarely occurs for the
* Being objectified and humiliated by scrutiny and gossip
* Becoming publicly sexualized
* Defamation of character and reputation
* Loss of trust in environments similar to where the harassment occurred
* Loss of trust in the types of people that occupy similar positions as the harasser or their
* Extreme stress upon relationships with significant others, sometimes resulting in divorce;
extreme stress on peer relationships, or relationships with colleagues
* Being ostracized from professional or academic circles
* Having to relocate to another city, another job, or another school
* Loss of job and income; loss of tuition because of having to leave school
* Loss of references/recommendations
* Loss of career
* Weakening of support network: colleagues, friends, and even family may distance themselves
from the victim or abandon them altogether.
Some of the health effects, psychological and physiological, that can occur in someone who has been
* Anxiety and/or panic attacks
* Traumatic stress; post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
* Sleeplessness and/or nightmares
* Shame and guilt; self-blame
* Difficulty concentrating
* Fatigue or loss of motivation
* Difficulties with time (forgetting appointments, trouble gaging time)
* Stomach problems; gastrointestinal disorders
* Eating disorders (weight loss or gain)
* Feeling betrayed and/or violated
* Feeling angry or violent towards the perpetrator
* Feeling powerless, helpless, or out of control
* Increased blood pressure
* Loss of confidence and self esteem
* Overall loss of trust in people; problems with intimacy
* Problems with sex (sexual dysfunction)
* Withdrawal and isolation
* Suicidal thoughts or attempts; suicide
Your Ego stands up since you feel - and your feelings are definitely right - that you are the "victim" of the harassment and the "offender" is taking all the rewards in your job. That's natural since the word justice comes up. It's not fair being treated in this way which leads to your feminine degradation and in the end you don't get promoted, on the other hand you are ready to quit your job.
Just FOCUS on yourself, remember yourself which things make you good at work, how much you worth as a person, what have you offered to this job. If you feel like quiting and search for another job then do it. Do whatever your instinct says, what it feels RIGHT for you. You haven't lost your spirituality but remember that there are many things that can enrage us. Learn to handle your feelings, firstly accept them and let the negative ones go.
Yet you should ask yourself : what have I gained from this experience? Each bad situation teaches us a lesson so as to move on in life and become better persons. Did this experience made you stronger? It definitely did - when the negative feelings are gone, you will see the big picture. Definitely you are not fraud, you seem confused about the fact that you can't use your spiritual ethics in daily life (in this situation to your workplace). It's not easy when you have to deal with personalities different than you. Next time you see him - if you still want to stay in your job - have a confident smile and believe in yourself. None and nothing can make you feel more or less on what you are. You define yourself.