Woman abuse

**Roier** · 01-03-2008

I abuse of a woman, she is 10 years older than me.

I can't avoid it, she is kind of a stalker.

So I ask her for money, just to try to make her say no.

But she seems not to think, so, I make her do other stuff, not dirty, you dirty minded, other stuff, like get stuff repaired or to get a nice meal.

She wants me to go to live with her, her house is comfortable, but I do really don't like her.

If I lose contact with her she comes to my house, and well, my house is crappy, so we go to her house, anyway, it's kind of a stalker.

Its not a beauty but doesn't has a bad body, but the way she dresses, she looks older than my mom.

So, I make her do tasks, I get money from her, meals, and beeeerrr.

But I do really not like her, I cannot move, I cannot leave her out of my house crying.

Here in mexico we don't have "stay away orders", and even if we had them, I won't do that to her.

Anyway, I don't have a girlfriend, if i have one some day, I asume she will step away.

In the mean time?

Thats it, she is doing whatever I tell her, I don't fell good about this, maybe I should fake a girlfriend, wait I already tried it, she wanted to meet her.

So, is that woman abuse??

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**ethtardo** · 01-03-2008

does she feel abused?

i think its a cause and effect kind of thing,dont u think?she started it by stalking u,then u ask her to do things..im not saying its ok..

i had a few times been in that kind of situation..i lied i had a girlfriend,she too wanted to meet her,so i asked one of my friends and asked her to pretend that she's my girlfriend..
that was when i was younger so much younger than today..lol..

**Roier** · 01-03-2008

Yes I did had a friend faking as a girlfriend, I had a second friend as a girlfriend, but she keeps in touch.

I am not sure, but I want to hurt her bad emotionaly, it might hurt, I want to have a girlfriend or even a wife, I do really want her to feel that crack in the heart, but, well, I feel confident that whatever she reacts I will handle her.

But will a girlfriend handle her?, we could have a free nanny, hahaha, I went to beyond, anyway, I am glad I shared, I have being like 2 years in this situation, anyway, right now I am single and I don't affect anybody.

Just her and me, HELP.

**Roier** · 01-03-2008

I think she feels abused, but she doesn't says no.

**ethtardo** · 01-03-2008

cant u be honest to her?im just not that into u,kind of thing.
or she still wont get it?

**Roier** · 01-03-2008

I am brutally honest to her.

And she still prefers that, she is kind of obsessed, one of many Drama Queens.

**ethtardo** · 01-03-2008

fight drama queens with cold shoulders..thats from experiences..

if u fight drama queens with dramas..aaaaaaaa!

**Roier** · 01-03-2008

Thats what I said, I try.

Ok, lets see, you might be right.

Lets compare, A woman crying on my door vs me getting a new jacket.

mmmmmmm, hard choice. I really understand you, she might cry once or twice, maybe 10 times in my front door but after a while she will let me alone.

Maybe I am abusing.

Daam, I am really abusing.

I think.

I will stop this asap, just after having a brand new car.

That was a joke, but yes I know I am abusing, but its hard to stop.

**violetbuttafly** · 01-03-2008

I think that this is abuse towards her wether she stalked you or not and you are playing games with her. The first thing to do would be to ask yourself why you want to put yourself and her through this and what lesson that you need to learn, and if you continue, you obviously haven't finished learning the lesson

**violetbuttafly** · 01-03-2008

Oh some advice for woman that are and have been emotionally abused, they do like buying the abuser gifts to make themselves feel good, as their self esteem and spiritual self is gone and they need to have a big void filled in their life, so this is why she won't break it off with you. So you have the power to finish this game. Sorry I am being blunt, but games or relationships like these can get draining emotional and messy.

**Roier** · 01-04-2008

Lets get a coffee babyee,

That was a joke.

But there is something that I had noticed, My lesson, the less interested you seem for a girl, the more interested she gets.

Another lesson, girls also play this game,.

Third lesson, there are girls that are really not interested, as there are men that won't ever be interested.

Fourth lesson, there are girls that only need validation, just flirt until they know they could have you, then they feel validated.

There are men that just want to nail whatever moves, thats manly validation.

Anyway, thats why I try to avoid avoidable relations, but this one seems not avoidable, I get a benefict, she doees too, but, well, its not love.

Awefull tought, if it where backwards, a young pretty girl, that would be me

, and an older man that this girl is not interested on, but she sleeps with him because of money and gifts.

She is a slut, I would not respect her, but you know, we have different validations.

The day there is no difference between men and women, that gonna be a gay world, full of sluts and faggots, have you stopped to think about the children, would you like a family like that?.

Ok, you like a family like that, what would be the next generation, ...

Ok, I can't say if it was a dream of an alucination, but it was a big bloody orgy, and I am not english.

Something I asure you, I can't solve relations, they are ass hard as am I getting to xxx??

Ok, men and women need to complement each other, it is really hard to distinguish between obsession and love, obsession is just that you got with the best prospect you might have in your life.

Love is really crazy, we are all in love from birth, but you have to think as your other part, because before both where born, the man painted her woman and the woman painted her man.

So you have to think, who had the bad taste to draw me, and check what you might draw, maybe you where angry when you draw the other, hehe.

Just to write, as always.

**tans** · 01-04-2008

Ever thought that the woman you are supposed to be with can't come through to you as the universe already sees you as being with someone (this woman you don't like)

**Roier** · 01-04-2008

Check "Love me if you dare" (Jeux d'enfants) its a french movie.

Mind blower, uufffff.

**TheRavenMother** · 01-04-2008

I know not many people can get their head around this, but some women like to feel abused like that - I know a few who live by it and love it and they love to serve others.
So maybe she is like this? If she is then she will be extremely hard to get rid of! those kind are! because the more you treat them bad, the more they love it! its when you become sensitive and sweet to them that these kinds of women might look elsewhere.
I know it sounds insane, but as I said I know a few women who are like that as I have been involved in the BDSM scene.