Women don't like sensitive men.

[SecretAgentMan]

The alpha male in the modern context isn't the rough guy who takes control and dominates lol. A woman will see the modern alpha male as a doctor for example, but this guy may or may not be an alpha male but a high achiever and women will pick this guy over a tough guy night club bouncer. It's so much more complex thatn just alpha male v beta male... sighs people are so ignorant.... it's frustrating.

The factors are the looks of the male indicating good genes and health, his social prowess ( not necessarily an alpha but someone who is well connected and socialable) and personality ( a charmer), his intelligence skills and other talents, his background etc.

[climbing]

Players who treat their women rough are generally viewed as powerful.

A "player" is not an alpha male.


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I disagree. The alpha male is good at pretending to be sensitive. They are very good at working at women and almost intuitively understand the psychology of women like you know, acknowledging that women are auditory creatures and just tell them what they want to hear so they can be satisfied. In high school, why is it that the strong buff types almost always gets the dream women? The intelligent sensitive types usually don't get the popular type women until much later in life when they are successful.

Maybe we all have a different definition of "alpha male". And why would strong and buff somehow be mutually exclusive from being sensitive? People just don't fit into these boxes. At least no people I've encountered.

Women like strong men. They like gorgeous men. They like sensitive and sweet men. They like men who can lead, take charge (alpha men).

And any wise woman won't accept anything less than ALL of those qualities in her man.

I like men that balance their sensitivity with their roughness. A woman wants to feel love and ushy-gooshy feelers, but also needs excitement and crazyness. Well, this woman, anyway. Keep it fresh but let her know she's your world.

Yep, you summed it up nicely.

Oh and I second what Secretagentman said, it's nowhere near as simple as some might make it out to be. My definition of an alpha male would be... a man who has the strength to do what needs to be done to protect him and his, regardless of the circumstances. A man who isn't afraid to lead others in a kind and compassionate way.

Say I went on a hiking trip with a group of people and we got lost in a bad storm... to me the alpha male would be the one who kept it together, didn't freak out, calmed the others and lead everyone back to safety. That is the kind of quality I want in a man who might one day father my children. Someone I can trust to take care of himself and someone I can trust to take care of me if needed. Yet at the same time someone who isn't afraid to be silly and giggle like a schoolgirl with me, someone who is romantic, sensitive and loving.

I found that person and God knows I consider myself lucky. Men who possess all of these good qualities are extremely rare and I speak from experience. Most of the guys I've known the past who tried to be alpha were just mean jerks, and half of them were NOT that strong and would crumble like weak little bitches if ever faced with serious circumstances. And then there were others who were strong and brave but didn't possess that sweet sensitive side at all.

[Magnus]

Older men are not necessarily players but when they were young the alphas do have a few girlfriends and can get away with it because the girls are more willing to compromise for them because they like the power and submit to it. Doctors aren't players like the young guys but they cheat on their wives just about as much as cops do.

[Amethyst]

Older men are not necessarily players but when they were young the alphas do have a few girlfriends and can get away with it because the girls are more willing to compromise for them because they like the power and submit to it. Doctors aren't players like the young guys but they cheat on their wives just about as much as cops do.

I work in a hospital, doctors/consultants walk in and out of the office where I work everyday...they seem like a pretty horny bunch, I can tell, I said that to my sister, and she was like, yeah, like other men...true...

I would not date any of them, then again, I am a weirdo.

[climbing]

Generalizations are general.

[evergreen]

Roier, the reason women don't like you has nothing to do with you being 'sensitive'.

[Amethyst]

Generalizations are general.

lol

yeah, as long as one knows that it's generalisation, and not the truth for all...

[Amethyst]

I have a question for you Roier, if you want to answer...

Have you been on dates or had girlfriend/s in the past?

[Magnus]

When you make observations you are basically seeing patterns. Generalizations contain truth but when you rely on a generalization to predict something then it's possible to be wrong.

@Amethyst, I've seen that doctors are a horny bunch too. The hospital scene is a strange working environment. I used to work in a medical spa for a doctor and he gave discounts to the nurses. A large portion of my clients were nurses and they told me some disturbing things. The doctor I worked for used to cheat on his wife too. They had three kids and were "upstanding" citizens in the community. lol I thought the doctor was gay actually so I was surprised when I found out that he left his wife for a younger nurse. He complained about her little kids all the time. One thing that sticks out in my mind is when we were all at a Christmas party and the doctor's pager goes off at about 9 at night. He gets a strange look like he's far away. He told his wife that he has to go take care of some fertility issue with some women. He was a fertility doctor. Well I nearly cracked up but his wife actually bought it! He left the party with no objection from her. About 6 months later he left her. He was like a Mr. Rogers so it wasn't like he was a typical "player" but still he played his wife and community into thinking he had integrity. I don't think it's such a bad thing to cheat but when you lie and pretend to be something you're not, that is weak. Maybe that is why some men like power. Deep down they know that they are weasels so they try to get power to make up for it.

[paleblack1989]

A "player" is not an alpha male.



Maybe we all have a different definition of "alpha male". And why would strong and buff somehow be mutually exclusive from being sensitive? People just don't fit into these boxes. At least no people I've encountered.

Women like strong men. They like gorgeous men. They like sensitive and sweet men. They like men who can lead, take charge (alpha men).

And any wise woman won't accept anything less than ALL of those qualities in her man.



Yep, you summed it up nicely.

Oh and I second what Secretagentman said, it's nowhere near as simple as some might make it out to be. My definition of an alpha male would be... a man who has the strength to do what needs to be done to protect him and his, regardless of the circumstances. A man who isn't afraid to lead others in a kind and compassionate way.

Say I went on a hiking trip with a group of people and we got lost in a bad storm... to me the alpha male would be the one who kept it together, didn't freak out, calmed the others and lead everyone back to safety. That is the kind of quality I want in a man who might one day father my children. Someone I can trust to take care of himself and someone I can trust to take care of me if needed. Yet at the same time someone who isn't afraid to be silly and giggle like a schoolgirl with me, someone who is romantic, sensitive and loving.

I found that person and God knows I consider myself lucky. Men who possess all of these good qualities are extremely rare and I speak from experience. Most of the guys I've known the past who tried to be alpha were just mean jerks, and half of them were NOT that strong and would crumble like weak little bitches if ever faced with serious circumstances. And then there were others who were strong and brave but didn't possess that sweet sensitive side at all.

*hugs* Great explanations/opinions!!

[paleblack1989]

Roier, the reason women don't like you has nothing to do with you being 'sensitive'.

I think he is sensitive, but he doesn't show it the way we normally perceive and accept it. Rough around the edges, y'know?

[paleblack1989]

I think he is sensitive, but he doesn't show it the way we normally perceive and accept it. Rough around the edges, y'know?

I totally read what you said wrong. Sorry.

[ANewKindOfNeo]

as usual the truth is somewhere inbetween. it's rarely a case of either or...

Some women like strong Alpha Dogs.

Some women like the sensitive type.

Some women like strong Alpha Dogs who are sensitive.

Some women like sensitive types who are strong.

Some women don't like men at all.

[fred aus indo]

Some women don't like men at all.

lesbians? LOL i just had to do it!!!

[h0bby1]

the alpha male concept always look a bit like an american movie super hero ideal lol

[climbing]

the alpha male concept always look a bit like an american movie super hero ideal lol

Mmm, that's my partner exactly. I'm always telling him that he looks like an "action hero", especially when his clothes are kinda dirty and he's all sweaty and muscular! Ahh I love it. Girls if you find a hot sexy man who looks like an action hero and he's actually KIND and CARING and GENEROUS and SENSITIVE- never let him go! I know I never will.

[Petula]

Strong women actually like sensitive guys but what they don't like is the wimps..Also; Social standing, good looks and charming attitude might be advantageous but once you scratch the surface you meet the real guy . So İt takes more than the first impression to be liked by some women...

Just be yourself and hopefully there will be someone suitable for you at the end! Someone who would accept you for who you are.

[Grandma Lola]

I'm pretty sure that I am an Alpha Male .....so I've never been looking for one.

[Emilou]

i always fall for sensitive men

[QuosVadis]

Actually I would say I don't like Insensitive men !

... . you are an amazing woman.... like your sensitiveness.. lol... be good... but i know that you noughty...