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    Why are some people so petty?

    Does being petty stem from insecurity? I see some very dense behavior sometimes and it strikes me curious as to what could make a person act like that. It in no way makes me mad, instead I feel a need to understand more, to take a step back and see the larger purpose in that sort of manifestation. A theory of mine is that pettiness spawns from ignorance of the ego, a total eclipse of the realization of oneness, the metaphoric rally to crucify jesus. This is not restricted to one race, color, or creed, people rich and poor, fat and toned, are all potentially petty in their interaction with their world. Even some who claim to be spiritually aware fall into the petty mindset. So the question lingers, do we need pettiness to balance virtue?


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    Pettiness has little to do with virtue young one.

    Rather pettiness is but a behavior misconduct meant to tease and undo principle.
    Virtue is often compromised by vise.

    The egotism that you speak of and its accompanied intrigue are not only dense but it is a "cover", an implied illusion much like the veil.
    Some call them shield of defense others projections meant to manipulate.

    The question is who are you dealing with when engaging or encountering such pettiness,,? For this requires a situational awareness. An example, pig is unclean by its nature and nurture, yet it is no less clean than dirty but a animal created to be a pig.
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    Petty... Lack of perspective.
    Being mentally too close to a subject...
    Focusing on secondary issues...
    Stress does this, a kind of perfectionism.
    A need to control... Nit-pick.
    Ego is right - but lack of self esteem
    Value of self is measured by tiny 'wins'
    Regardless if they miss the point..
    Jealousy? Maybe angry they 'lack'
    But that is still Ego/Self Image etc..
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    Quote Originally Posted by illuminati View Post
    Pettiness has little to do with virtue young one.

    Rather pettiness is but a behavior misconduct meant to tease and undo principle.
    Virtue is often compromised by vise.

    The egotism that you speak of and its accompanied intrigue are not only dense but it is a "cover", an implied illusion much like the veil.
    Some call them shield of defense others projections meant to manipulate.

    The question is who are you dealing with when engaging or encountering such pettiness,,? For this requires a situational awareness. An example, pig is unclean by its nature and nurture, yet it is no less clean than dirty but a animal created to be a pig.
    Bravo lumi. Very well put. Your eloquence shines in this information. Exactly the response I hoped to receive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Neptune View Post
    Petty... Lack of perspective.
    Being mentally too close to a subject...
    Focusing on secondary issues...
    Stress does this, a kind of perfectionism.
    A need to control... Nit-pick.
    Ego is right - but lack of self esteem
    Value of self is measured by tiny 'wins'
    Regardless if they miss the point..
    Jealousy? Maybe angry they 'lack'
    But that is still Ego/Self Image etc..
    Agreed. It must be that they(us sometimes too) see things on a smaller scale. We sometimes fail to see the bigger perspective of things. Some individuals are new to earth and so they are unaware of the consequence of their self intoxication. Those who have awakened are able to see when their actions contradict their spirit. Everything is in relation to spirit and how far we have progressed as humans. Some may be earlier in their lessons then we others have but they serve to facilitate more awareness in those who know

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    Misery loves company, the petty people are usually the same people that are not happy with their life, job, spouse, finances, etc.
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    Heh, funny the way energy works. While I was writing a thread about something that I would usually rise above (but have chosen not to),
    You were writing and asking the question why... Trippy. So, as I'm replying to yours I'm thinking how petty I'm being - it was hard to face
    Strange how I asked a question and it was answered with a question...
    Still gonna be petty about my issue though lol
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    pettiness stems from an inherent passive aggressive attitude (read: no balls)-- one wishes to do damage but cannot in a more blatant aggressive manner, so he/she resorts to "pettiness" or things that can be overtly defended as non-petty behavior, but the damage is still done, whether physically or psychologically. that's my impromptu response at least.

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    I think I am being petty because my whole belief system - my whole life was under attack - for the the most petty reasons!
    So in a moment of weakness I pulled out the big guns, and in a cruel attack shot holes in their argument using the same petty reasoning.
    I knew what I was doing. I also knew I could win. It's a weird state of mind being aware of bad behaviour and allowing it to continue to serve a purpose.
    So to answer the other half of the question about using it to balance virtue?
    I'm not sure. Is it petty to not beg someone to forgive you? Is it virtuous to allow them to continue blindly assaulting everyone around them?
    Or is it more virtuous to be petty and leave them to face their own guilt until they take a step back and grow up?
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    some budhist principle can be applied to this everything has a reason to be anyway, pettyness it is like restricting intentionally your mental scope

    sometime i have a theory like for example, for beggar whatever society you will be in, there will always be poor and rich, begars and kings, there is a kind of spectrum of population that will be present in any society anytime, like a biological harmony, this harmony is reached partially while growing up and finding your place in the society , and all mindset has a need to be present at anytime in any society

    it remind me a story of barjavel, it is about time travel, and sometime the person go back in time, and kill for example an architect, but when he go back in the present, the building is still there built by another architect, like if some things just had to be in the time frame, and there will always be one person to build it at this time, because there is a kind of pattern that need to be followed, and every mindset is part of this harmony, and this is a sort of global mindset that need to be achieved at a particular time and context to adapt to a situation, and each mindset get more or less influence at a particular time to face a particular problem

    if you feel offended or disturb by petty ppl, it is probably because you have a form of it yourself, or that you have a form of intelerance towards a mindset, which is not all "zen" or budhist , taoist etc =) but well yes sometime such ppl can be annoying lol


    but that said yes, after you can also use some pettyness to, if you have a broader view of the matter than what the petty person has in mind, you can easily disturb the mindset they issue from their restricted view, and shake their view a bit, can be risky cause petty person can easily become aggressive or personal when you start to put hole in their view it can easily make them angry, but it is for their good

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    Lol says the one who's posting.. (Perfect example of pettiness btw. )

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eitheror View Post
    Look at all you losers on a saturday night lmao
    is this an example of self-deprecating humor?
    or someone that is delusional?

    I'm just going to flip a coin on this one.

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    without pettiness in people... everything would be big deal all the time and that will be exhausting... for a second i thought pettiness was referring to "meekness" aspect of things
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    lol... I just woke up and was really sleepy eyed reading this and I read it as "pretty".... I was like gah! People can't help being pretty! Leave them alone! lololol

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    I pettiness isn't just lack of perspective. It's a lack perspective. That's the only reason people are petty. People aren't really petty about air because it's everywhere. If there's any sort of feeling or perception of lack, it's because the universe is setup to hide the truth about grace. So lack perspective is going to find something to be petty about. Even in matters when most people would agree it's not petty. It's always petty.

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    once again this "petty" concept is just another perspective so is "grace"
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    Quote Originally Posted by fred aus indo View Post
    once again this "petty" concept is just another perspective so is "grace"
    Ya. Guess which perspective leads to lack.

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    observing a lack perspective is lack behavior?

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