Daughter Not Listening At School!!

[Bajillic]

OK,,,, my little 6 year old indigo daughter who often doesn't listen to her parents is now doing the same in first grade.... She loves her teacher and school but she is just starting to get comfortable and showing how she doesn't listen!
She is very confident, friendly and smart but definitely has the I know trait happening. I am concerned when I see it happening out of the home as I know it will effect her learning before long. My husband and I plan on sitting down and having a loving chat about it all tonight. My husband was visiting her at school today and her teacher who is super let him know that she was concerned about her listening... the teacher adores her thankfully and I want it to stay that way!!
Does any indigo or parent of an indigo have any suggestions on how to approach this with her?

thanks so much


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[Rue]

homeschool her.

[Annette]

Can you explain not listening a bit. Does she not follow directions?

Annette

[Rue]

schools really dont teach you anything.
you want a school that can teach you
hermetic school

[Bajillic]

I knew someone was going to say that... I have been a stay at home Mom for nearly 7 years with two children 6 & 3. Right now I honestly don't have the patience to do it all day. I am so cherishing the times I do get to myself and feel it is so needed for me to learn about myself. I feel like I am getting ME back again. Her school and classroom is great and I feel she can learn more there than from me at this time... the future I am open..

Good advice though - thanks

[Bajillic]

not listening. ..... Meaning you will have to ask her 3-4 to times to pick something up... I guess she isn't listening when she is asked to do something.
Not sure exactly when she isn't listening at school - will speak to the teacher. But I guess it is with instructions. She is SO strong willed it isn't funny... she is very loving and caring.
She definitely want to be older than she is. Her first tooth came loose yesterday and she is over the moon about it.

thanks

[Annette]

I'm a kindergarten teacher and this is not an uncommon problem. Listening skills are something that we work on every day. Every small child has difficulty following directions...esp. if they go beyond one step directions. Every little one daydreams a bit and for indigos...lol...they are the ultimate daydreamers :-). You can play games to help strengthen her listening skills.
You can start here:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...o_improve.html

[Fragments]

I'm still that way in 11th grade. I just can't listen...Too much going on in my mind to focus on some subject I'm not interested in. Luckily for me, I tend to already know 70% of the things taught in school.

[Bajillic]

schools really dont teach you anything.
you want a school that can teach you
hermetic school

I disagree, it does teach you a lot if you fit in..... I turned out pretty educated but I grew up in New Zealand.... I am 39... I do know what you are trying to say however and that is why I am concerned and want to help my daughter at 6 ...
Since the beginning of her school year the teacher has said she is fantastic right on track etc.. a pleasure. She went to a Montessori preschool for three years and did her kindergarten year there. She loved it and did great. No issues at all However last two weeks she decided she was done and was more interested at being a first grader. She likes to be ahead of herself.
She has been in a ski program, 6 weeks all day on Saturdays. Again listening has been a concern. Her coach said she will just walk off in the lodge ( I think she was looking for her Dad) get on the lift when she wants.. stuff like that.

Thanks for all your input. I really appreciate it and this site.

Jill

[Bajillic]

Anettte I agree with you.... where does the norm end?

[Satisfiction]

I turned out pretty educated but I grew up in New Zealand.

Yay! New Zealand!

Play listening games with your little ones (you're never too young to learn!) Kids love to be right and have compliments

[Annette]

I had a little indigo boy in my class last year. He was so turned on to life!! School is important to indigos...I believe. I think the most important aspect for them is learning to be with many different types of people and learning some boundries.

My little indigo would lead little revolutions. LOL He would stand on his chair and spontaniously yell...ok...I'm done...who wants to go outside?? Are you with me? LOL

Very bright child...as a teacher, I just needed to keep up with him. He was very emotionally connected. I learned to anticipate when he was finishing up a project and I would give him extention excercises that would connect with him. I would ask him questions like...what do you think the little red hen was feeling when nobody would help her? Or...what could she have done to motivate her friends to help her?

This year his mom and 1st grade teacher are getting a bit frustrated with him. He gets annoyed when his classmates don't understand him...yet he is a very popular kid. He really does love school though. The teacher is frustrated because her attempts to discipline him usually don't work. Example: One of her attempts was to make him spend his recess picking up garbage around the school grounds. About half way through he exclaimed, "This is the best day of my life!!!" When the teacher asked why, he told her, "I am having so much fun spending time with you and cleaning up the school. We are really making a difference!" lol

Extraordinary kids!! We just have to learn to roll with them but we also have to set some limits so they keep safe.

Much love,
Annette

[Bajillic]

Great story Annette,
Chatted to my daughters teacher after school today. She explained she wasn't not listening as a means to annoy or misbehave she said she is so busy wanting to know what is going on everywhere else and being distracted I guess.

thanks

here is her picture with her brother

[jules]

I think those are all great suggestions I would add one more piece.

Ask her what makes it hard to listen sometimes and ask if it is different reasons in different situations. Part of what you are also doing is building her own self awareness so that she is able to be a good team player (or decide she disagrees with the team) but at least to have the ability to articulate the choice and why she made it. I have a son a little older than her and sometimes he is daydreaming, sometimes he is focused else where and sometimes he is just plain ignoring. They are both beautiful!

[jdxad]

When this happened to me, I was put on Ritalin....


Don't do this, please. It closed all three of my eyes.

[Satisfiction]

One of her attempts was to make him spend his recess picking up garbage around the school grounds. About half way through he exclaimed, "This is the best day of my life!!!" When the teacher asked why, he told her, "I am having so much fun spending time with you and cleaning up the school. We are really making a difference!" lol

This was me at school!!! Hahahaha. I love picking up rubbish

Question for Annette: Some people say that most of the children being born today are mostly all indigo, and yet you say you only had one in your class last year? What do you make of that?

[Annette]

This was me at school!!! Hahahaha. I love picking up rubbish

Question for Annette: Some people say that most of the children being born today are mostly all indigo, and yet you say you only had one in your class last year? What do you make of that?

I’m really not sure if most children being born today are indigos…but I do know that (at least the ones that I am blessed with) all the kids in my class are extraordinary. I used this one particular boy just as an example. The kids that touch my heart the most are the ones that are labeled “behavior problems” and because of this I usually get most of these kids in my class. The thing is…I don’t usually see the “problem.” I see these kids as having different ways of thinking and learning…I don’t see them as problems in any way. My classroom is very hands-on, active, noisy and dynamic. I close my door and do it our way. The kids teach me how they need to learn and I try to keep up with them.

Are they all indigo? I’m not sure. Let me just tell you a bit about my babies this year.

I have one autistic girl who was tested as mildly mentally retarded. She can read words like authentic, percussion and attention, she counts to and identifies all of the numbers to 100, she puts together very complex patterns and she works the computer better then me…yet she does none of this while being tested lol…only in play. Oh! She also went up to a boy and placed her forehead on his forehead and said “ow!” This boy has brain cysts that give him migraine headaches.

I have one boy who can view any dance and match it almost perfectly. We had a group come to sing and dance about Character Counts. I bought the CD and was playing it during center time. This little boy was doing the dances that we saw from this group and he had only seen them one time. He is labeled “emotionally disturbed.”

One little girl cannot tell me the main character, plot, or retell a story but she can tell me how all of the characters in the book were feeling and why they were feeling that.

There is one girl who is completely non-verbal but she expresses herself very well through the beautiful drawings that she does.

One little boy is completely tuned in emotionally. He lets me know the emotional well being of my class and even explains why they are feeling this way. He led me to ask some very important questions of a little girl in my class and that led to calling CPS. This little one is also very tuned in to how I am feeling. I was having a very stressful week. I try very hard to not let any of my kids know when I’m having a bad day but nothing gets past this one. He shouted, “Ok…teacher needs a group hug!” and they all came to hug me.

I could go on but I won’t.

Indigo…maybe. Special…most defiantly.

Thank you for opening up a reason to talk about my kids. They are a big part of who I am and who I am becoming.

My classroom is not the general type of classroom. My kids are never sitting at their desks with their hands neatly folded in their laps. They are rarely all doing the same thing at the same time. Administrators come into my class room and have little heart attacks. They tell me what I am doing wrong and I listen and then go and do it my way anyway. What can they do? I’m tenured lol. My new principal is great! She lets me do whatever I want…as long as my test scores stay way up.

Ok…now I’ll stop. Sorry for going off on a tangent.

Much love,
Annette

[Bajillic]

Wow Annette,I wished you lived in my town!!! So nice to see where you are coming form with the children. Have you heard of the Book The Children of now. Go treat yourself to it , it needs to be read by you.

Thanks for being a great teacher.

Jill

[Mishrobi]

Wow Annette, good for you! My 8yr old son has high functioning Autism and is VERY empathic and social, my 5yr old daughter is shy but intuitive and smart. I absolutely passionate about children, loved reading your words!

[Annette]

I am passionate about kids as well. Teaching is one of my greatest joys but it’s also one of my greatest sorrows. The kids are an absolute joy to me but some of the parents…well…I just don’t understand. Some parents, I feel, are my biggest mountain to climb in finding how to truly love unconditionally.

Some parents are wonderful!! You know why they had kids. They treat them like the beauties that they are.

Some parents…I just don’t understand abuse. I don’t think I even want to understand it. I want to stop it!!! I try to understand the person. There is a lot of poverty and drug and alcohol abuse where I live. I can empathize, love, care for and try to educate these people but when I find out that they abuse their children…there is a line drawn. Everything in me shuts down toward these people. I see them as monsters…as evil…how can someone abuse a child?

Sorry…another tangent. I just learned that one of my kids is being abused. I did the CPS thing but that is frustrating! I had to send this little one home when all I wanted to do was take her! I’ve been thinking about her all night. How could I send her home?!?!?!?

Sorry

Annette