My life long challenge of dissolving depression without the use of conventional medication has been a really long road. I decided not to use prescription drugs ( my family wanted me to because they were sick and tired of me being depressed and suicidal.) All research I did and questions I asked people about how the drugs affected their day to day lives kind of scared me. Certain drugs made some patients more suicidal and other drugs killed the sex drive. ( Having my sex drive taken from me alone was enough to want me to off myself!)
I finally got through my dark time by hitting bottom and losing everything that was important to me. I'm not suggesting that, only stating my journey. You can all skip the losing everything and go straight to getting happy.
When I lost everything I truly stopped caring what other people thought. I no longer cared about pleasing my parents, my boss or anyone at all. I was numb and empty and had nothing to loose. When you release yourself from the invisible contracts that are drilled into your mind from birth something amazing happens. I gave myself a break. I let go. I stopped trying to drive my life and just let it unfold. Normally I was a very driven and intensely motivated person, a mover and a shaker. I did it to make money, make a career and try and get the approval of the world. And then I stopped...
I felt a little better after that, but having had my life scripted by everyone around me except myself made me a life goal retard. I had no idea of what I wanted. I didn't know what made me happy. It was the first time in my life that I had to answer to myself. So, in my desperation of trying to save myself from drowning in my own past baggage and fear I reached for the nearest thing to rescue myself. ( With mixed results.)
The one smart thing I did was to reach out for help. I asked my Mom to be there for me as I was fragile mentally and she rose to the occasion. I asked my best friend to look out for me as I was adrift and he eventually married me. ( That was a good call...)
After plateauing for a few years chasing my hearts desires in business and being a married lady to a nice guy things got complacent. Or rather my higher soul moved on to bigger and better things and I stayed in a rut. A miserable, stubborn rut that made me so unhappy that those exit strategy suicide thoughts came back with alarming familiarity.
I did what any self respecting Indigo Lightworker would do. I ordered every self help booked from Amazon.com and meditated like it was Armageddon tomorrow. This is the sum total of what I have learned to overcome depression and live in bliss.
Your job is to love you. Know what foods you like and what makes you smile and do it often. This is more important than any medication ever created. Serve your joy.
The next suggestion is highly controversial on these boards but it helped me so I post it. Stay away from negative people. Look, I know that in life they will find you, but you don't have to cater to them all the time. Honor your soul and your time by keeping your personal contacts ones that are nurturing and balanced. I realized that I would never let jerks and bitches spend time with my precious son, but I was submitting myself to those kind of people everyday! I had to learn to value myself enough to protect me from unhealthy relationships. ( Still working on discernment in that area to this day...)
Appreciate. See the good in your life right now. Even if it is only a moment of sun glinting off of a leaf in a lovely way then appreciate that. You are closest to God's ear when you are in appreciation. I believe that depression is wallowing in resistance in your life and the cure is to appreciate.
As I learn to be good to myself and appreciate all the great and wonderful things happening everyday the universe just keeps bringing me more and more awesomeness. The depression has left me. My mood is more balanced and I haven't had a suicidal thought in 6 years.
The best part is discovering what you like. Do you like Indian food? Is hanging out in the park with Seniors your idea of a good time? Do you want a pet turtle? What kind of movies make you happy? Is owning the whole video game series of Final Fantasy the key to your joy? Do you want to open a Bass Boat charter? I like this part of finding joy the best!
Whatever it takes to find relief and define your personal happiness is the path I have taken. I have nothing against Meds if that is what gives you some relief. Serving your joy gets at the root of the unhappiness.