I´m a new one here - from central Europe - and I´ve decided to try this web-site with the hope someone here has a similar experience, or can help me somehow, with this:
I have a son (my only child) who is now 15. Since he was born untill his puberty, he had been showing exreme signs of an "indigo child" - well, labels or no labels, he was the most extreme child around (and we live in the capital, not any small town or a suburb!), forced to change schools almost every school year. His communication skills (spoke fluently at 2), intelligence, curiosity, creativity, musical talent, and various original ways of self-expression as well as interaction with others were quite extraordinary and very mature for his age. But after his 13th birthday, he changed drastically: practically stopped moving (as for sports or going outside to play), stubbornly ended his musical education/practice, and his ONLY interest became money, having the fanciest expensive label-clothes and electronics and enjoying luxurious lifestyle (his grandparents enable him all this, unfortunatelly). When we talk, he explains that money is the most important thing in life and that his only goal is to get a good education (lately, he started doing much better at school, about which I´m happy of course, because untill recently, he was doing literally nothing at school and just refused almost any task and teacher) and a good job so he can earn lots of money. But, he doesn´t care at all WHAT he will do, he doesn´t believe it is important that he will love what he will do or express his natural talents in his work - the only goal is to earn money... All this is sad and strange to me even more because I am the total opposite of such attitudes: I work in the publishing house most famous in our country for spirituality, mind-body-spirit subjects; I practice astrology and card-reaging; I constantly work on my own spiritual and personal development; I´m very modest as for material side of life; I always led my son to love and respect nature, animals, environment and other people, and to have a creative, authentic, fear-less approach to life. He sees me as a weirdo, a representative of a "minority", and he repeats he is not and won´t be like me.
I struggled with "parental dissapointment" for some time, and then I just let it go. I believe we all have our journey here, and each soul knows what he/she needs to experience here, and its their private thing. But I still wonder - HOW COME THAT THIS HAS BEEN SUCH AN ENORMOUS SHIFT IN MY SON?? It is almost as if I gave birth to that very special, strange boy, who was after reaching his puberty suddenly just "gone" and this young man now is simply someone else... I do not judge it anymore, but deep inside I still feel the need to UNDERSTAND.
Thanks ahead for any response to this.
Love and light to you all!