On a completely personal note...

[thisisme]

Is this a healthy friendship?
I'm a girl and one of my best friends is a boy. We have a small problem...WE FIGHT ALL THE TIME!
We fight about everything, from who starts the fights to who is right more often to why holidays are important. The thing is, he does't fight like this with any of our other friends. It is like he is bipolar. He tells me he hates me and does't know why he is friends with me then when I try to leave, he says I should stay. He criticizes everything too, like how short I am and mimics me talking but he can't keep a straight face. Even my friends say he is exceptionally mean to me. But I know that he tells me things before he tells other people. Sometimes he even admits that he knows he is wrong he just likes to get me flustered. It is very annoying.


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[LH919]

this relationship is not unhealthy

but it is also not mature

and not honest

but it is very normal

boys tend to do this

when they really like someone

and they are not mature enough

to accept how they feel

do not know how to proceed

and so result in

sabotaging any chance

of things proceeding and changing

so they do not have to face the fear

i doubt he is bipolar

he may have some social skill issues though

[MrDadtastic]

maybe you were married in your past lives

how long have you been freinds with him?

[silvercharm]

he's definitely in love with you, but he's too arrogant to say that "i love you" words.
some people hardly say that stupid simple words.
the fight is a stupid way to say "i love you and i want you to pay attentions to me and thinking about me all the times"

i used to tease people who i really like, btw. ahahaha

[silvercharm]

just like the manga/anime stories

[[7.7.7.x.CORE]]

I too feel that he's developed feelings for you, but sacrificing a friendship for a relationship is a massive thing & changes the friendship bond forever, maybe you were connected in past lives.
I too had a male best friend that fell for me we argued like a married couple but I'm 4 years older than him & met him when I was just 16 & engaged so cos of his age nothing ever happend, I too developed feelings for him but kept them to myself & by the time he was 16 I couldn't tell him, but it worked out as he finally moved on & I fell in love with someone else & now we hardly talk but wer'e both glad that we just stayed friends but it was very very hard at times.

chel
xx

[climbing]

It's simple: He likes you.

How old are you guys?

[blueskerdoo92]

Id have to go with the first post. Im a dude, and though ive never been like this I know many males who have. He is either deeply infatuated with you and dosent want to admit it, or he just dosent know how much he feels for you and negativity is the only way his emotions can vent it. this is an extremely UNHEALTHY relationship. I would recommend separation from him. If that is an issue cause you and him have the same mutual friends then when he is around acknowledge him but be very distant, if he cares enough to ask why then explain your situation 'hey im sick of fighting with you CONSTANTLY'

If a relationship does blossom give it a chance, you never know. i strongly disagree with [7.7.7.x.CORE] friendships are not forever, their just as fragile as romanticships what do you got to lose? time heals most wounds

[silvercharm]

i agree with you, blueskerdoo92 ^^

just take a break, make a distance with him...
he probably will say the magic words--i love you-- after you "vanish" from his life for a while...

but i think that the real friendship is forever...
i dated my friends twice (different person), after i broke up with them...we're still remain as friends until now.
well yes, it's a lil bit different right after the break up--but it's all back to normal again.

real friendship is clairvoyant, true friends will never leave you no matter what.

[thisisme]

Thank you all so much for your responses!!!
To get to the questions that were asked...
MrDadtastic, we have known each other since I was in first grade. It wash't until about two years ago that we became good friends. It is now to the point that we probably know each other too well..
climbing, he is 15 and I am 16

Idk though, I find it pretty hard to imagine him liking me.

[silvercharm]

Well, there's nothing impossible for love.
Don't think nor imagine it, but feel it with your heart.
Meh, i'm pretty sure that you like him too...no?

[thisisme]

I don't like him...he's like my brother.