What you call hostility others would see as being passionate by showing ruthless compassion for your ego. I've indicated I have a relationship...I have a friendship with him and a common shared goal and having a daughter together...but that does not mean that I have to support him. I choose to because I understand what he is sharing with you.
WHat I call hostility is trying to shove shit that substitutes for truth down my neck , but you are just supporting him for the reason of blind loyalty and brainwashing. That is not love.
and I will continue to defend love against both you and him.