nbunderstanding wrote:I have an ex boss who has launched a vendetta against me. I need help to figure the best way to escape her evil rath. I honestly believe she is some sort of evil entity. Any insight would be helpful. I am desperate & feel unsafe.
If you truly feel unsafe, then you must keep her away from you at all times! One way of doing so is getting a restraining order against her...you will have to probably submit some proof that she is threatening your life in some way, i.e. documented history of violence, etc. If you have proof of her specifically wishing you harm in some way, verbally or otherwise, then you would have no problem getting a restraining order instated.
As for the acts of slander against your name...I must ask, who will take her seriously and will whoever that may be have any effect on your life? You must find out who may be influenced by her statements... Does she have a documented history of irrational behavior? You'll need to probably need to hire an investigator to probe into her background to dig up any dirt she may have...remember everyone has something to hide, no matter how small it may be...we all have secrets we keep away from strangers! Make sure that whomever you get to dig up info on her cannot be linked back to you...use only cash...no Money orders, checks, or credit cards! If need be, use third and fourth parties given limited instructions...so if they asked anything about you, they'll have no idea who you are! Never get personally involved in anything that can be traced back to you...Once you have what you need against her, use it to discredit her validity! Be like a lawyer in court who tries to discredit someone's testimony by denoting some form of "Reasonable Doubt"! Let others see her fallibility and inconsistent & irrational behavior through previous examples from her documented past!
In my opinion, never ever back down from a bully! Never ignore someone like this, because in their eyes it is a sign of weakness...in other words it paints a bright red target on your back that says "Easy Prey That Doesn't Fight Back!"...a bully's dream target! Just think, if someone says something negative about you that can hurt your credibility and reputation, your career or future will always be tainted by said slander...whether it be true or not! You need to show your innocence by stating publicly that her statements are unwarranted and cannot be substantiated nor proven by any means because you did not do whatever she says you did! Then you must have credible proof that you did not do what she says you did...make sure you have credible witnesses and signed, dated, witnessed proof on your side! Make sure you have a credibile alibi that can be documented and proven beyond reasonable doubt!
Please take this advice from me..."If you ignore your enemy, you will have no defense against whatever may be thrown at you! Keep your enemies close, and your enemies closer!" Know what they will do before they even decide to do it...DO NOT let them manipulate you into going into a defensive position...for then they will try and keep you there, resulting in them controlling YOU! The best way to confront a bully is with confidence...showing them that taking you on will be no easy task! Bullies beware!
I understand what the others are telling you...in that you should try to not let this person make you feel her negativity! I agree, to err is human, to forgive divine! Just ignoring a problem won't make it go away! It'll still be there once you come back to reality...and probably be even worse than when you ignored it initially! Think of it as a fire in your kitchen...you ignore it...you come back later and everything you hold dear, your memories, belongings, etc. are gone forever!!! If that's not a good analogy, think of it as turning the other sheek to someone who's about to run you over with a truck...you turn your head and ignore the inevitable and you're maimed for life! OR Suppose someone calls you a child molester and somehow it gets out...no matter if it's true or not, the stigma of this label stys with you forever like being diagnosed with Herpes...you'll never fully rid yourself of it no matter what you do!
Consult a lawyer as well...I know that this sounds expensive but it'll be worth maintaining your sanity and a chance of a prosperous future! Good luck!