I just want to see what you guys would do. I have a few things in my mind on how to go about this. But without a man's perspective. Just my own.
So there is this guy. We have been best friends since we were 9. 12 years. He has wanted to be with me the whole time. We dated three times. When we were 13 for a month 15 for a couple weeks.. and 16 for a couple weeks. He broke it off every time because he didn't feel like he was treating me right.
When we were 15 he kissed two girls and he and I have never made out.. still haven't. I haven't done anything with him. He told me right after both times. And I replied to him saying "what do you want me to do about this, its whatever." Then he broke up with me saying he needs to treat me better.
When we were 16 he cheated on me having sex with a few different girls.. told me right after each one. And as always I said "what do you want me to do, its fine." And he was like "why don't you cheat on me for revenge, why aren't you mad at me.?" And I said "because your my best friend, and I respect how honest you are with me, I can't hate you." He broke up with me saying he needed to treat me better.
We didn't get back together since. He has been going girl to girl and updating me on how he is becoming a better boyfriend. Practicing not cheating on the girls and such. Every relationship I have been in though since then, he seems crushed about it.
Now I'm about to get married, and the whole relationship with the guy I have right now .. during this whole relationship. My best friend keeps asking if I'm still with the guy, then getting really drunk after I say ya I'm with the guy.. and then he calls me up drunk saying that he has loved me for so long and wanted to marry me, and that he is happy for me that I found someone. His sober conversations with me are like this...
Him: hey, are you still with Christian
Him: that's great, I am so happy for you (you can hear in his voice that he is sad and trying to be sincere)
Me: ya thanks
Him: are you guys still getting married?
Him: oh that's great I'm so happy for you (same tone) ...... I love you so much.
Me: I love you, your my best friend
Him: your my best friend. I really love you, always have
Me: (sighing on the inside) so what are you doing (change of subject)
Ugh haha like I feel bad, he is a great guy, really sweet but I really don't like him that way. He is like a brother to me. I know if he stopped drinking his life away and stopped thinking about how we could have been he would get a great girl. He started drinking a lot when I started dating Christian. Siiiiggghhhhh