Indigo Parent of a Rainbow Child with Indigo Tendencies: HELP

[WingedHermetic]

I have an almost 15 year old son who is a Rainbow Child with Indigo traits as well. He is very insightful. Brilliant. Creative. But he is also angry all the time. Frustrated. He paces a lot. He has problems with cementing his identity and he is afraid all the time. I do not know what to do to help him. Does anyone have any suggestions or insight?

[Seed]

hey spark!

i remember when i did cross country in high school. one particular race in waimea i pushed it all out when i saw the finish line. i remember taking all those breaths again and again when i passed out. i regained consiousness again in the schools van. thank you lopaka for reminding me

lifes a race! so please dont erase it

[Seed]

PLEH

again

as you remember from your youth

[Seed]

ashes to asses

dust to rust

the end
will send
you

back some light

-innocence remembered

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[Seed]

ah i think i was 15 years physically when this incident occured

was probably 16 though

[Seed]

#L

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this is my major minus es sence

c to sea the shining s(eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee)

[Seed]

what's your masters and minors?

t - 5...

[Seed]

the psychic born of the psycho

children of our mothers from not too lang. ago

-pc
+uc

[kittycathy]

My kids are younger than yours--15 is a hard age regardless. But I would say, listen to him. Give him opportunities to make choices on his own. Choose your battles and let the little disagreements slide. Instead of punishing him and telling him what to do, talk with him and find out how he's feeling or why he acted the way he did. Offer physical outlets for his feelings of anger--prompt him to hike or lift weights or swim laps as a centering exercise.

[OBEsprite]

I'm amazed no one reported Seed for the irrelevant comments of his in this thread. I'm unsure if that's a clue whether or not to take this thread seriously, but just in case someone who legitimately is in this situation comes across this thread and needs help:





I don't think it's very wise to label your child as rainbow/indigo. Actually, I think it's quite rude. It's putting expectations on your child and you may confuse him if he hears you referring to him with such labels. Who injected the rainbow/indigo ideas into your sons head? Was it you? Or was it him? These are still his informative years, and if you're not careful, you can make him go bat shit crazy before he's even got his adult foot out the door.

It's very unlikely that rainbow/indigo has anything to do with your child's anger when you consider what a raindow/indigo child would actually be. But since this is an indigo forum that caters to these ideas, I'll share with you what I can from both point of views. In all likelihood, he's not rainbow or indigo or whatever label you want to give him or he looked up on the internet or heard from a friend. It's like telling your small child what you want them to be when they grow up instead of letting them decide.


---------The non-paranormal response:


Teenagers and Anger. Boy oh boy. As much as I loved being a teenager, I'd rather not go through the roller coaster of emotions that occur due to chemical and hormonal body changes. He's 15. He's angry. From my experience, teenage boys are usually angry when they either feel emasculated, or had their ego bruised. Questions like this make me wonder how sheltered people really are. It's like everyone forgot they used to be a teenager once. Or they had a limited group of friends lacking varying personalities. Teenagers get mad! Sometimes all you can do is let them be mad. Let them cool off. If toddlers can do it, so can teenagers. Sometimes you can't help someone not be angry. Sometimes they just gotta be angry, and deal with it. Like when some people kick furniture with their bare feet. Some people get very angry. Nothing you can say or do will make their anger go away, it's usually fleeting... they just gotta ride the tide, and let it out. Although if it happens a lot, you probably need to rearrange your furniture.

Ask. Probe. Ask him why he's mad. If he doesn't answer or just says the infamous response, "I dunno".. embarrass him with soft lies to his own self discovery. This is what I mean.

Mom, "Why are you mad?"
Son, "I dunno."
Mom, "Are you mad because you fart too much in school?"

Assuming your child does not have a serious flatulence problem, you'll either get an eye roll from a pessimist, or a chuckle from an optimist. And hopefully they'll respond with a, "well no, I guess I just...[insert self discovering epiphanies here or subjects that will lead to it]."

You don't have to use that example. And if your first one doesn't work, try another and keep trying until they bite. It's like when someone around me loses their train of thought and forgot about what they were going to say. I usually tend to rewind keywords of whatever the conversation was, from the present til as far back as necessary until something sparks their memory (and 9 times out of 10 it does).

Teenage boys can be mad about girls. About their body. About their feelings. About their parents. About money. About their clothes. About deadlines. About their reputation. About how their peers perceive them. The list is endless.

Now if your son is punching holes in walls, more than likely, he wasn't taught how to appropriately and effectively express his anger. I don't say this to insult anyone's parenting skills, it's just matter o fact, and more common than people think. And it's not necessarily something you need to sit down and talk about (although it won't hurt), but something that's learned by example. And I don't care what anybody says, punching a pillow is not as satisfying as "experts" seem to think. But it is a good way to let out any volatile energy that's occurring during the "anger episode" to help exhaust the person.


------The anti-indigo response:


But from what it sounds like, you said, "he's having trouble cementing his identity". WTF?! Leave his identity alone. Who are you to say what his identity is? There is no need to cement one's own identity. There is only finding it. And he doesn't even really need to look for it, because his identity is who he is and he will naturally develop and grow into his own skin in his own time. Why am I being so bossy with this answer? Because CHILDREN ARE THE FREAKING FUTURE! AND IF I REINCARNATE AGAIN SO HELP ME GOD.... I don't want to be born to fuktart idiots that your child may have raised! Your child might be my future great grand parent (or even yours!). Please don't screw up the children. (I'm not trying to attack you, this is a general message for everyone, including people who do not yet have kids)

Even IF indigo or rainbow was a real thing, you better believe something like that was decided before they were born. And if that's the case, surely there are things designed in order to help the "special child" understand who they are, what they are going to be doing with their "gifts", and how to exercise them.

Do you even know what rainbow or indigo entails? If you really suspect that your child is this, make a list. A list of expectations that you have from ANY rainbow and indigo people. Next, make a list of expectations you have of your son. Notice anything? No wonder a kid would be upset thinking they have "rainbow/indigo" shoes to fill.

GD! If I grew up being told I was rainbow or indigo etc, I would've shot my face off by now.

Wanting your child to be rainbow/indigo/etc is like wanting to deprive your child of a "normal life". If your child really was this, unless you're a selfish money loving bastard who wants to exploit your child or loves attention, you don't want to advertise this to anyone. It has the potential to turn your child into a target. A target for ridicule. A target for violence. A target for people who want to use him. I'm not trying to attack you (or anyone) asking questions regarding their kids on this forum (asking random strangers on the internet questions is your right, well at least in america), just stating what you can expect from others in your daily life.


--------The pro-indigo response:


Don't treat and label your child as rainbow/indigo/etc!!!!!! IT'S RUDE!

I will pretend for the sake of this argument that your child is a glutton for punishment, and before he was born, he did in fact make the decision to have a hard life as a rainbow/indigo child. First of all, he wouldn't sign himself up for anything that he couldn't handle (and not to scare you, but with that motto, people forget that all of us must obviously be able to handle death since it's in EVERYONE'S path inevitably). I'm not going to say, "don't worry, trust his higher self"... because if you look at some of the decisions some people make, it is clear that not all decisions are made or created with the higher self backing up the choice. Not to turn this conversation dark, but I really doubt that someone's higher self decided they should be a pedophile. That being said, you still have a lot of influence in helping your child develop into a decent, well-rounded, functioning human.

If you believe in rainbow/indigo children, then you actually also believe that we plan things before we are born. It's not like we're born and people "accidentally" get psychic abilities... think of the chaos if this were the case.

So, in the spirit of your son planning on being an indigo/rainbow child before he was born... then so will the things in his life that will help him develop and nurture his own natural abilities. The worst thing you can do is expect anything from it. As a matter of fact, I get great satisfaction when imagining punching parents in the throat who create these unbelievable expectations from their children even though I have not directly been in this situation myself (relax, the people I'm punching in my head are made of clay so no one has to worry about my thoughts turning into things =P you crazies). Especially when you consider an indigo/rainbow awakening as a teenager? ARE YOU NUCKING FUTS?! Sounds like an idiots plan to me. Smart people would either be born with it, or wait til their brain is done developing in their adulthood.

In the scenario that he's a real indigo/rainbow/etc... there really isn't much you can do aside from talk to him. It's not like a magical tea will make him less angry. It's not like a crystal will calm his personality. But... placebos are possible. I would say getting him into rocks would be a great placebo if he learned rock "meanings" and "uses"... but at his age, he's probably more interested in girls/boys. And if he's not, you probably broke him. I'm just kidding. I knew a few teenagers when I was one who were more interested in church, making money, volunteering, practicing extra-curricular activities or writing essays for scholarships at his age. Most kids his age need to be able to form his own independence.


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What makes your child an indigo? Does he talk to dead people? Can those dead people prove to him they're real? Does he bring dead birds back to life? Do flowers grow beneath his feet? Do possums cling onto his clothes when he steps outside? Does he fart lavender? Does he shit gold?

Oh wait wait, lemme guess... he's awkward, antisocial, sensitive, and sad?

THAT'S NOT INDIGO/RAINBOW PEOPLE!!!


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If all else fails, get him an xbox kinect (it's a great investment). It'll help him stop thinking about whatever obsessive thoughts he has and remind him to act like a kid again before it's over. It'll also let him release any pent up excess energy that he doesn't know what to do with and tire him out at the end of the day if that's his problem.

If anything, you'll be contributing to the cause of preventing obesity.

[Uro]

Absolutely epic!


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