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    Ok so I am looking

    Ok, I know they say the answer to find someone is to stop searching. But I cannot seem to get it out of my mind, I am such a hopeless romantic it is not even funny. And I would really like having someone who loves me no matter what, and the same for me to that person. And someone I could smother with my love by opening that flood gate with no holds on it and them be totally comfortable with it and appreciate it, I love on people to the point I feel drunk with love for them, and I would like someone to give me some back. I want someone I can come home and talk to about whatever for 6 hours and it feels like 40 minutes. I want it so bad it hurts. I give love to anyone and everyone I come into contact with but it is not the same. What do I do?


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    Give up looking

    This sounds silly, but it works.
    Give up the fantasies and the wishes
    to leave an empty space in you. Live
    without "wanting". Be satisfied with
    yourself as you are.

    The Universe likes to fill empty places,
    to make things whole. Then it will happen, and be real.
    Be in harmony,
    be in beauty.
    roger
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    I agree, you just have to let it come to you and it will be so much more amazing because the more we search the more flustered we get that we can't find what we are looking for. sometimes what your looking for may be right in front of our faces. good luck and best wishes

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    i think he/she will find some one eventually weather looking for them or not. looking helps a lot though. if you stop wanting how do you know what you want?

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    Ziggy! I hear you....and frankly i dont believe in this not looking stuffs. The only times ive ever met guys i like is when i was actively looking or actively surrounding myself with lots of guys. As soon as i take a step back....drought!

    guess some things you have to do fo yourself, the universe cant provide everything! Heheeh

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lili Ray View Post
    Ziggy! I hear you....and frankly i dont believe in this not looking stuffs. The only times ive ever met guys i like is when i was actively looking or actively surrounding myself with lots of guys. As soon as i take a step back....drought!

    guess some things you have to do fo yourself, the universe cant provide everything! Heheeh

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    Lol makes sense. Thanks for the reply

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    Quote Originally Posted by julianblackstar View Post
    i think he/she will find some one eventually weather looking for them or not. looking helps a lot though. if you stop wanting how do you know what you want?
    This also maKes sense, thanks for the reply.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic Child View Post
    This sounds silly, but it works.
    Give up the fantasies and the wishes
    to leave an empty space in you. Live
    without "wanting". Be satisfied with
    yourself as you are.

    The Universe likes to fill empty places,
    to make things whole. Then it will happen, and be real.
    Be in harmony,
    be in beauty.
    roger
    Thanks for the advice bud, thanks for reply.

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    be yourself its such a common thing thats heard but just be yourself.
    i tried to be all nice snd a wonderfuk person to past girlfriends.
    then id get upset if they did'nt show the same.

    i met my wife 12 yesrs ago and said to myself " im just gping to be me warts and all"

    were still together. the pressure of trying to be a nice guy takes to much pressure.

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    This is so true. The best things have always found me when I thought I was not looking.



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    What has been interesting to me about finding
    relationships as in "just a warm body" or the "Right"
    relationship, is the variety in the "quality" of attitude.

    These attitudes change as we start "dating" and
    go through the social learning process of attraction.
    We learn that our "intention" has a great deal to do
    with the response we get.

    What kind of empathy signals are you sending out?
    Our empathy-telepathy can judge the appropriateness
    of the responsce. Dress hot and you are expected to be hot
    is a good example of what you see, is what you get.
    [what type of energy are your sending?],
    Maybe . . . . . .?
    I need protecting and I will trade loving for it.
    I will provide adventure.
    I will provide stability.
    I will provide status
    I will provide Ego conformation [you are the greatest.]
    I will provide empathy love.
    I will provide physical love.
    I just want self conformation [conqure then walk away.]
    Are you a hunter looking for prey?
    Are you pretending to be prey? [the mouse trap does not chase the mouse]
    One night stands once-a-week? [don't forget the condoms.]
    Confiding [intimate?] equal [split-the-check] friendship?

    In our USA society, the predator [M or F] has lost the right
    to say "yes or no". As a predator you already have said yes.
    If you change your mind, prepare yourself for an angry response.

    Few questions, lots of different answers, and more questions.
    Be in harmony,
    walk in beauty.
    roger
    Last edited by Psychic Child; 02-16-2013 at 09:32 AM.

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    To accomplish the miracle of one thing.
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    Zigman ...your pretty much awesome! The person who does give you their heart...will be one blessed person! I hope you find that love that you are so searching for.
    I was the same way my whole youth. I craved love....I needed it so bad. When I gave up on love..it came knocking at my door

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    Quote Originally Posted by sean mac aoide View Post
    be yourself its such a common thing thats heard but just be yourself.
    i tried to be all nice snd a wonderfuk person to past girlfriends.
    then id get upset if they did'nt show the same.

    i met my wife 12 yesrs ago and said to myself " im just gping to be me warts and all"

    were still together. the pressure of trying to be a nice guy takes to much pressure.
    I want to be myself, sensitive and all that but now aday's women ESPECIALLY my age 18-25 dont want that. They want you to have game, (I have learned this but its not me) they want you to be an alpha male for the most part. I am an alpha male to the point I allow myself to be vulnerable from a place of strength but females my age go with alpha males in the douche persona. I can be a douche, and I dont have a problem having sex. IM TIRED OF SEX I WANT LOVE GOD DAMNIT. So dont get me wrong, I dont try to be the nice guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angienader View Post
    Zigman ...your pretty much awesome! The person who does give you their heart...will be one blessed person! I hope you find that love that you are so searching for.
    I was the same way my whole youth. I craved love....I needed it so bad. When I gave up on love..it came knocking at my door
    Thanks Angie

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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic Child View Post
    What has been interesting to me about finding
    relationships as in "just a warm body" or the "Right"
    relationship, is the variety in the "quality" of attitude.

    These attitudes change as we start "dating" and
    go through the social learning process of attraction.
    We learn that our "intention" has a great deal to do
    with the response we get.

    What kind of empathy signals are you sending out?
    Our empathy-telepathy can judge the appropriateness
    of the responsce. Dress hot and you are expected to be hot
    is a good example of what you see, is what you get.
    [what type of energy are your sending?],
    Maybe . . . . . .?
    I need protecting and I will trade loving for it.
    I will provide adventure.
    I will provide stability.
    I will provide status
    I will provide Ego conformation [you are the greatest.]
    I will provide empathy love.
    I will provide physical love.
    I just want self conformation [conqure then walk away.]
    Are you a hunter looking for prey?
    Are you pretending to be prey? [the mouse trap does not chase the mouse]
    One night stands once-a-week? [don't forget the condoms.]
    Confiding [intimate?] equal [split-the-check] friendship?

    In our USA society, the predator [M or F] has lost the right
    to say "yes or no". As a predator you already have said yes.
    If you change your mind, prepare yourself for an angry response.

    Few questions, lots of different answers, and more questions.
    Be in harmony,
    walk in beauty.
    roger
    I send out energy of a balanced individual

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZIGMAN View Post
    Ok, I know they say the answer to find someone is to stop searching. But I cannot seem to get it out of my mind, I am such a hopeless romantic it is not even funny. And I would really like having someone who loves me no matter what, and the same for me to that person. And someone I could smother with my love by opening that flood gate with no holds on it and them be totally comfortable with it and appreciate it, I love on people to the point I feel drunk with love for them, and I would like someone to give me some back. I want someone I can come home and talk to about whatever for 6 hours and it feels like 40 minutes. I want it so bad it hurts. I give love to anyone and everyone I come into contact with but it is not the same. What do I do?
    The Love you speak of is unconditional Love that is inside of you. When you connect with this unconditional Love within, you will attract someone into your Life that has connected with their unconditional Love. You will come together to share your Love with each other. You're looking for something externally that you hold internally. All you have to do is just remember.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WarriorINDGO View Post
    The Love you speak of is unconditional Love that is inside of you. When you connect with this unconditional Love within, you will attract someone into your Life that has connected with their unconditional Love. You will come together to share your Love with each other.
    I will ponder this while eating breakfast, thanks brotato chip

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    Ok I'm gonna reply to this, because my whole life has been in search of a man, and I know the ins and outs of the game. At every corner, I thought or made myself believe i 'found him', and I've been -well, disappointed or wrong is not the right term, more like... I've come to realise they weren't it.

    There is no magical recipe for getting there. You will, when time comes. When she or he wants to come (see, not assuming anything here ), and whenever the universe is ready to provide. One thing: the universe always provides. Not what you expect most or what you want most, or what you think you want, but what you NEED to make yourself advance, to give you what it is you 'lack' in order to discover or re-discover your magnificence.

    And now, when I am 100% ok with myself, when I know more than ever who I am and what I am capable of... I kind of learned to discern amongst people. To know that it is no use of getting attached to one or another - that HE will come whenever he comes, and until then, I might as well have fun with it.

    And that's my musings for today.

    Much love.

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    bets reply to date. thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angienader View Post
    Zigman ...your pretty much awesome! The person who does give you their heart...will be one blessed person! I hope you find that love that you are so searching for.
    I was the same way my whole youth. I craved love....I needed it so bad. When I gave up on love..it came knocking at my door
    To all.
    I was the academic Adviser and Prof to 65 college art-jewelry-majors.
    In their relationships I saw the Idea of giving up on love. That Being
    comfortable and trusting themselves, brought opportunities for many
    relationships knocking at their door.
    We talked at length to find out why, and came up with this.

    When you are hunting you have a picture-list of what you are looking for.
    You become very selective and judgmental. More in a reject mode for "The"
    one you are hunting for.
    When you stop looking, your wish list does not dominate. You are open
    to a wider variety of opportunities. The openness of your empathy does
    attract more possible match ups.
    Openness allows that Stary-Eyed Across the room psi-connection,
    that heart explosion, happen.

    Twice a friendship developed into a serious relationship.
    Twice the across the room Zoombaaaa. One I Married
    and the other was on an Astral [solid form] visit around
    28,000 bc [+/-]. It was two years ago and Her name
    was Cornflower. She was 43 and a widow for 2 years.

    We were getting very serious, but our family talked sense to us.
    Our "Ages" were the problem, after all I was 27,917 yrs older.
    ;-( ;-( . .
    We even had names picked out for the children.
    ;-) ;-)
    Be in harmony,
    walk in beauty.
    roger

    That which is below corresponds to that which is above . . .
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    To accomplish the miracle of one thing.
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