Another relationships thread

[Zen]

Hmm, random thoughts here..... I understand why I've been a loner most of my life... I have more friends online now than I do in real life (all spiritual/indigo people, I never 'fit' or find common ground with other people)... but it's a pain in the arse these friends are only online and live a long way away.

Strange now though.... I've made four or five non-spiritual friends recently through Facebook and now chat with them on MSN, seems odd that I'm getting on with them..... *thinks*

[sLiPpY]

Life usually works that way. Males especially build their friendships around mutual interest vs. women who tend to more so value an emotional component.

Wherever one developes an interest and dedicates time to pursuing that interest, whether online or locally. One will have the opportunity to make friends.

[Zen]

And something else... I'm having an awkward time people telling me they think I'm attractive!!?? I think that being bullied as a schoolboy has made me this way?

[CantStopDancing]

find things in your communty that have interest in....like group activities or just shoot the breeze with people. I get on differ level with people. Dont stay in that one Dimension. I have skater friends, breakers of course, rockers, gangster, friends with people no one understands such as yourself, and the list goes.. just relax and dont think about so much and people other join in or go there owen way. I tell people if you dont like that i'm free and me! you can kiss me and my whole families ass!

[sshenry]

Life usually works that way. Males especially build their friendships around mutual interest vs. women who tend to more so value an emotional component.

*raises a questioning eyebrow*

[CantStopDancing]

And something else... I'm having an awkward time people telling me they think I'm attractive!!?? I think that being bullied as a schoolboy has made me this way?

i was bullied and called ugly oddly enough from girls in school. iwasn't bullied by dudes cuz i was good at sports and was willing to beat ass if you thought u can just come over beat on me, i got this alot cuz i was small, quiet, and nice.Girls messed with me cuz i cant beat them up!...they're girls and u cant hit women. As i got older i say around 17 i blossumed into a dove and all of suddent every girl liked m,plus i moved to a new city where my rep wasn't ruined from past. It was akward that super fine girls liked me but i got used to it but didn't know how to treat women. WOMEN DONT LIKE NICE MEN so lost many but i've learn the game and i'm ok. You just have to let go of fear and push threw it. trial and error

[sLiPpY]

*raises a questioning eyebrow*

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/m...1/ai_n18710458

This article seems to provide a good summary and examples of
co-relative sociological research on the topic.

"Friendships are a female gift, a study from Manchester University concluded last week. Women have "deeper and more moral" friendships than men. Male friendships are fickle and based on self-interest.

The different ways in which men and women connect is a subject of enduring academic interest. It affects systems of education and work. It influences business and social activity. It has apparently defeated a generation of social engineering. The teaching establishment has devoted itself to the re-education of boys. It has tried to make them less restive and more sensitive. More co- operative, less competitive.

Nature has given nurture an almighty kicking. Girls continue to form friendships; men join teams. Girls love social networking internet sites; boys lose interest once they have posted pictures of themselves and given their opinions. They are much better suited to blogs, a one-way conversation."

[CantStopDancing]

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/m...1/ai_n18710458

This article seems to provide a good summary and examples of
co-relative sociological research on the topic.

"Friendships are a female gift, a study from Manchester University concluded last week. Women have "deeper and more moral" friendships than men. Male friendships are fickle and based on self-interest.

The different ways in which men and women connect is a subject of enduring academic interest. It affects systems of education and work. It influences business and social activity. It has apparently defeated a generation of social engineering. The teaching establishment has devoted itself to the re-education of boys. It has tried to make them less restive and more sensitive. More co- operative, less competitive.

Nature has given nurture an almighty kicking. Girls continue to form friendships; men join teams. Girls love social networking internet sites; boys lose interest once they have posted pictures of themselves and given their opinions. They are much better suited to blogs, a one-way conversation."

You've not have just read my post and u must be a women. I have not met or talked to any women that want as you said" less restive and more sensitive. More co- operative, less competitive" Now they may say they want this but is not true! I am by nature a nice person and compassionate. When i was an asshole and didn't give a fuck for a period of time because i was tired of being missed used, the women wouldn't stop coming......i was puzzled like crazy. I asked a hot girl and she replied they seem to needy...mommas boy....a wimp... i want a man that can protect me and put me in my place once and a while. Simular to their dad image. Zen DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN ADVISE ABOUT WOMEN IT WILL FUUUUUCK YOU OVER TRUST ME I TRYED IT! i was lonely and confused. Look at all the guys who have girls chasin them see how they act. i bet it all sensitive and shit. Its not considered Alpha male. the Alpha takes what he wants. it's sad but true. I've done research and experiemented myself! Take this; i knew this fine senorita that worked at a bank and thought i was cute. I was a playa back then so i didn't care how i treated her anything, she was all over me. I ran out condums and said no more sex til i get some condums. she later told me that drove her crazy and wanted me more. We dont go together anymore cuz i wasn't serious but when i got serious she didn't like me go figure its a sweet and sour combination they like. i worked at womens stores, worked with all women, and dated and fucked the whole rainbow....trust me. oh yea CONFINDENSE IS A MUST!

[Zen]

find things in your communty that have interest in....like group activities or just shoot the breeze with people. I get on differ level with people. Dont stay in that one Dimension. I have skater friends, breakers of course, rockers, gangster, friends with people no one understands such as yourself, and the list goes.. just relax and dont think about so much and people other join in or go there owen way. I tell people if you dont like that i'm free and me! you can kiss me and my whole families ass!

Hmmm, thanks! I know what you mean and where you're coming from.... but I've been trying those things for yeeaaars!!!! lol!

As a teenager I had many, many problems with loneliness, nowadays it's not an issue for me. What is my issue, is the friends I do have... they're all bloody miles and miles away!!

[Zen]

....Males especially build their friendships around mutual interest vs. women who tend to more so value an emotional component...

What about gay males??

[sLiPpY]

What about gay males??

That I'm not sure about, however an interesting question?

I suspect it wouldn't be any different for a gay male vs. well, I hate the term gay male or anything that defines sexuality in general. Why can't folks just be? Like souls.

My reasoning would go something like this. Males tend to organize around their interest. Gay males go to Gay bars, there aren't many if any "Lesbian" bars that I'm aware of in this area.

So gay dudes show up at gay bars in the interest of alcohol and sex.

And if anyone has a more direct concept or experience, please correct me and don't take personal offense. I'm a Sagittarian for God sakes and just put my foot right on out there to be inserted. It's the most direct way of learning I know.

oh, and by the way...I am a dude...no offense taken at all by the guess of an earlier poster. I think exploring intuition is awesome.

[sLiPpY]

You've not have just read my post and u must be a women. I have not met or talked to any women that want as you said" less restive and more sensitive. More co- operative, less competitive" Now they may say they want this but is not true! I am by nature a nice person and compassionate. When i was an asshole and didn't give a fuck for a period of time because i was tired of being missed used, the women wouldn't stop coming......i was puzzled like crazy. I asked a hot girl and she replied they seem to needy...mommas boy....a wimp... i want a man that can protect me and put me in my place once and a while. Simular to their dad image. Zen DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN ADVISE ABOUT WOMEN IT WILL FUUUUUCK YOU OVER TRUST ME I TRYED IT! i was lonely and confused. Look at all the guys who have girls chasin them see how they act. i bet it all sensitive and shit. Its not considered Alpha male. the Alpha takes what he wants. it's sad but true. I've done research and experiemented myself! Take this; i knew this fine senorita that worked at a bank and thought i was cute. I was a playa back then so i didn't care how i treated her anything, she was all over me. I ran out condums and said no more sex til i get some condums. she later told me that drove her crazy and wanted me more. We dont go together anymore cuz i wasn't serious but when i got serious she didn't like me go figure its a sweet and sour combination they like. i worked at womens stores, worked with all women, and dated and fucked the whole rainbow....trust me. oh yea CONFINDENSE IS A MUST!

I'll share why I think that is...Women almost always choose to marry someone like their father. Mostly, it's because they already know about dad and figure they will have an easier time 'dealing with it."

I think that tendancy will lessen over time in context to the higher percentage of 'broken families" today.

However, my sister married an NDP, just like my dad was an NDP.

He's physically and emotionally abusive to her and her children. My eldest indigo nephew has moved out at 16 it'd gotten so bad.

Women some want someone just like dad, because it's what they know.

[CantStopDancing]

I'll share why I think that is...Women almost always choose to marry someone like their father. Mostly, it's because they already know about dad and figure they will have an easier time 'dealing with it."

I think that tendancy will lessen over time in context to the higher percentage of 'broken families" today.

However, my sister married an NDP, just like my dad was an NDP.

He's physically and emotionally abusive to her and her children. My eldest indigo nephew has moved out at 16 it'd gotten so bad.

Women some want someone just like dad, because it's what they know.

i know! it's sad but true,(talking in perspective- u cant fuck me up all day and expect me to like you! but women for some reason can do this soooooooooo weird