Trust

[pellet]

Lately I have been confronted with this issue in a very powerful way. I have always been a very sensitive person, and due to a series of intense experiences during my childhood, I had been forced to create a belief in order to protect myself which I have studiously invested in since then. The belief is that I am alone and I can trust no one for anything.

As a result of this fixation I have attracted experiences which prove over and over again, in my own mind, that I have to indeed not issue trust in others. This has led me to gravitate towards those who are more timid in nature as they are gentler. I understand emotionally the need to trust, but I now need to convince my mind as well.

How do I know who to trust? What do I do when the trust is broken? Are there good and bad types of trust and which is which? How do I teach myself to trust others? These are all questions which I need clarity on. My heart is sore and I don't know where this emotion is coming from. I am new to feeling from my heart and this is all very confusing.

Thanks for your help.

love & peace

[kelekena071]

emotional trust is a tough issue. Sensing that you had some rough childhood events, as many of us have, that could complicate things further.

Not that I can help, but I can empathize and let you know you're not alone. I too find myself not being able to trust anyone emotionally, even family. I find it more based on the events of my childhood than I do the Indigo parts of me. I have many friends now that I trust to talk with regarding the Indigo effects.

When it comes to emotions, heck, I'm seeing a family counselor on a regular basis to try and figure that one out. I find that people have to earn my trust. The more they try to get closer emotionally, the more I tend to put up walls, or get nervous or suspicious of them. I know things should be the other way around, but I think because we were hurt at a young age, we learned to be protective of ourselves, and to be in a survival mode emotionally.

If I learn anything useful in my sessions, I'll be sure to share. If you find anything, promise me you'll do the same?

[soulkid]

i know how you feel. when i turned 19(june 18) my trust for people kinda faded. i myself was going through life changes. i always trusted everyone no matter the wrong they my have caused me. sometime i would get this feeling like they were trying to hurt me in some way which usually was right.now im 21 and i dont really trust anyone but i do respect them for who they are and sometime try to give them alittle trust which can be hard to do. one thing i could tell you is trust your gut! never dismiss it. always look a person in there eyes when talking to them.learn them. try to figure out what and how much trust you can give them. you will know in your heart.ohh and dont expect anything out of them because you really set yourself up for disapointment. i hope this helps alittle

[Righteous_Morality]

I am the same way. I find it hard to trust people. I prefer to rely on myself, and no one else. Even friends that I have had for years, I don't fully trust. I tend to distance myself emotionally, from just about everything. I think, too, it is a survival instinct. I know the value of an ally, but I never fully trust them. I know people's intentions, but it is hard dismissing that old doubt in the back of your mind that they are going to stab you in the back when your not looking.

Its weird really. I have also come up with this thinking pattern that I shouldn't show a weakness. I consider emotion a weakness, mostly because when ever I have shown too much emotion toward one thing, some one has or could capitalize on that and take advantage of it. Don't get me wrong, I am emotional, I just don't show it around people. Hard to explain, really. Hmm...

[kelekena071]

No need to explain RM, you just described my emotional make-up to a T. I'm with you there.

[spiritzzz]

Lately I have been confronted with this issue in a very powerful way. I have always been a very sensitive person, and due to a series of intense experiences during my childhood, I had been forced to create a belief in order to protect myself which I have studiously invested in since then. The belief is that I am alone and I can trust no one for anything.

As a result of this fixation I have attracted experiences which prove over and over again, in my own mind, that I have to indeed not issue trust in others. This has led me to gravitate towards those who are more timid in nature as they are gentler. I understand emotionally the need to trust, but I now need to convince my mind as well.

How do I know who to trust? What do I do when the trust is broken? Are there types of trust and which is which? How do I teach myself to trust others?good and bad These are all questions which I need clarity on. My heart is sore and I don't know where this emotion is coming from. I am new to feeling from my heart and this is all very confusing.

Thanks for your help.

love & peace

Hello pellet, the heart is said to be the seat of the soul by some others would not agree. This is a very interesting thread and I have been in the same space as everyone else seems to be in. I am going to givew you very short answers to your questions above and see where that energy flows.


How do I know who to trust? For me it is a resonation in my heart which tells me who I may or may not trust. In the same breath I am very caution when dealing with people and tend to look for a possible motive, within a motive, within a motive.


What do I do when the trust is broken? For me I forgive but do not forget.


Are there good and bad types of trust and which is which? We live in a world of duality and while I do not like to use the words good and bad I would say that there are types of trust that serve to bring me joy and those that do not. I use to look at it as to expect the worse and if something better happens that is fine. Now it is kinda different but I derived at that space from experimentation within the space of expect the worse.

How do I teach myself to trust others I have learned this through experimentation in the crucible of life or what some call the school of hard knocks. That is what we are here for is it not?

Now pellet, i have given you the short version of my experience. If you find in those answers something of interest and would like to explore them farther from the point of view of my experience feel free to inquire. Though understand this, for me to peel back my defenses and answer from my heart requires a certain amount of trust for I speak here in an open forum. In this forum I have seen people's beliefs be attacked yet for a stranger ( you ) I shall trust and by being vulnerable to such attacks possibly teach and be taught. ROFLMAO, I am such a silly old bird to fly in these waters!!!! Thank you for this opportunity to express.

Doug

[spiritzzz]

Lately I have been confronted with this issue in a very powerful way. I have always been a very sensitive person, and due to a series of intense experiences during my childhood, I had been forced to create a belief in order to protect myself which I have studiously invested in since then. The belief is that I am alone and I can trust no one for anything.

As a result of this fixation I have attracted experiences which prove over and over again, in my own mind, that I have to indeed not issue trust in others. This has led me to gravitate towards those who are more timid in nature as they are gentler. I understand emotionally the need to trust, but I now need to convince my mind as well.

How do I know who to trust? What do I do when the trust is broken? Are there types of trust and which is which? How do I teach myself to trust others?good and bad These are all questions which I need clarity on. My heart is sore and I don't know where this emotion is coming from. I am new to feeling from my heart and this is all very confusing.

Thanks for your help.

love & peace

Hello pellet, the heart is said to be the seat of the soul by some others would not agree. This is a very interesting thread and I have been in the same space as everyone else seems to be in. I am going to give you very short answers to your questions above and see where that energy flows.


How do I know who to trust? For me it is a resonation in my heart which tells me who I may or may not trust. In the same breath I am very caution when dealing with people and tend to look for a possible motive, within a motive, within a motive.


What do I do when the trust is broken? For me I forgive but do not forget.


Are there good and bad types of trust and which is which? We live in a world of duality and while I do not like to use the words good and bad I would say that there are types of trust that serve to bring me joy and those that do not. I use to look at it as to expect the worse and if something better happens that is fine. Now it is kinda different but I derived in that space from experimentation within the space of expect the worse.

How do I teach myself to trust others? I have learned this through experimentation in the crucible of life or what some call the school of hard knocks. That is what we are here for is it not?

Now pellet, i have given you the short version of my experience. If you find in those answers something of interest and would like to explore them farther from the point of view of my experience feel free to inquire. Though understand this, for me to peel back my defenses and answer from my heart requires a certain amount of trust for I speak here in an open forum. In this forum I have seen people's beliefs be attacked yet for a stranger ( you ) I shall trust and by being vulnerable to such attacks possibly teach and be taught. ROFLMAO, I am such a silly old bird to fly in these waters!!!! Thank you for this opportunity to express.

Doug

[pellet]

Thank you everyone for your input/perspectives on this important issue. Through experience I have come to the realisation that all emotion and thought is energy. Experiences generate energy and according to the law of love energy must flow.

During a traumatic experience a person tends to feel victimised, as if they are the only person who this happens to and they have been singled out for that fate. This personal identification with an experience causes one to "own" the energy of that experience, not releasing it and storing it like a prize in the vault of pain that they label as themselves. Negative feelings/thoughts are simply pockets of energy asking for attention. You have two choices once this happens, love it and release it, or react to it and keep it.

We all have our respective challenges, and our objective is to learn to love unconditionally in all aspects. Loving and releasing allows that painful emotion which is simply a form of energy to free itself from that form so that it may become something of our choosing, and where love is the initiator of that change, love and peace will be it's fruit.

So these past few days I have been crying my heart out, releasing the pain that I no longer want, respecting it for it's lessons but choosing another way to live. How this all relates to trust is that trust issues are simply a symptom of unreleased emotional energy. Its that energy saying "no no no! remember my pain! you don't want anymore of that!" Our thoughts and feelings are simply an effect of a more fundamental cause, and that cause ultimately finds its way down to energy, and from energy to love. Even pain is a form of love and it is our goal to realise this gift.

I hope this helps in some way. May you all be blessed and realise your freedom.

love & peace