Wondering

[DashBlades]

Hey guys, I'm back on the forum...at least, for now. If I don't respond to any of the posts here, just know that my crazy family life has something to do with it lol.

At this point in my life, I'm discovering myself at a deeper level. I'm realizing that I'm not in the traditional sense "normal" in hardly anyway whatsoever. To start off, I'm bisexual. Which is the reason why I'm posting this thread.

I've had a hunch for quite a while now that I'm going to have one of those "group marriage" families (I take pride in being a thorn to society). Although, I'm not 100% sure. It just seems VERY possible to me at this point that a group marriage is in my life's plan.

So, I'm wondering. Would an indigo child benefit from having alternative parents? I'm pretty certain they would. I mean, I already know I'm going to homeschool my kid(s). And from what I've heard, children who have same-sex parents tend to be more open in general. So then, I ask, wouldn't a FFMM parental model give them even more of an open mind? Especially if they're indigo/starseed?

Thanks,

-Dash

[Hearsekid]

Hey brian what do you mean by group marriage ? what is that?

[DashBlades]

Oh, here's an example:

Everyone is bisexual (in this model)

Brian is married to Samantha, John, and Lizzie

Lizzie is married to Samantha, John, and Brian

Samantha is married to John, Brian, and Lizzie,

John is married to Brian, Lizzie, and Samantha.

Of course, there are also hetrosexual models. This is just the bisexual model.

[Hearsekid]

Oh ok, so its just a 3 way marriage, why didnt you just say that man lol ok Brian ill marry you and we can go find lizzie K?

[DashBlades]

Hmm... I certainly think that there would be the potential for a lot of input, support/guidance, and more shared knowledge with being raised by a 'group' instead of the traditional one or two parent model. Especially if the child is homeschooled.

Like the old saying: It takes a village to raise a child.

Yeah, that's my take on the whole thing. Of course, it's an entire essay. But that's the sum of it right there. I'm glad to hear that my fellow indigos/starseeds/elementals/xyz don't think I'm crazy for wanting to be that way. Thanks for the input .

Oh ok, so its just a 3 way marriage, why didnt you just say that man lol ok Brian ill marry you and we can go find lizzie K?

*Laugh*

"Group marriage" in my mind implies 3/4/5/6-way marriage. I guess not though . Oh well. At least you seem supportive .

[Hearsekid]

hell yeah im supportive, but damn now you want to be in a 6 way marriage? i like how open you are though HELLA! pretty cool man, I wish more people were like that

[DashBlades]

I wasn't saying I 'wanted' to be in a 6-way marriage. It's just that group marriages typically are 3-6 people in size. Though I guess if things happened that way, I wouldn't complain.

And thanks lol. I know what you mean, it's really a shame more people aren't more open. Not to say the group marriage lifestyle is for everyone. Hardly, it's just the STRONG negative reaction that's not so great.

I guess it's not a huge suprise though. Gays are still regarded as "borderline evil" =/.

[Hearsekid]

HAh "borderline" evil? my friend just told me that down in Latvia during a gay parade people were still in the flinstone age throwing rocks and beer bottles and yelling obscenities at the participants...EFFING sad......Ive never really even thought about the group marriage thing before, you just opened up something for me I never really seen before, I dont think it's really popular here tho in Vegas cuz I know alot of gay/bi/straight people and just havent seen the 6 way marriage..Ive seen a few tri-marriages, like 2 girls and a guy type thing..anyway, now I wanna know more

[DashBlades]

Since it's kind of off-topic (kind of), I'll PM with you about it.

[Hearsekid]

ok fo sho

[fiessa]

hi dashblades!

i think that it would probably leave them with an open mind and more people to go to for support, and i think homeschooling is a good idea, buti'm biased on that one as a homeschooled 14 year old who has never been in the public school system..

[DashBlades]

Oh hey Fiessa, nice seeing you again . Thanks for the support. I'm somewhat suprised all of you have been supportive so far. I've gotten a lot of mixed reactions before lol.

[fiessa]

the only problem i can see is if they get teased, but if they arent in the public school system it's not as big a problem... out of curiousity, arent you too young to marry?

edit: oh. *headtodesk* going.. oops. my brain had turned off for a sec.. *metaphorically*

[DashBlades]

Lol don't worry about it. Happen to me all the time .

You're absolutely right though. I wouldn't even dream of having my kids in a public school when they have a quad parent model. It would be cruel.

[tagg]

what if everybody in the world just had the same relationship status... like we arre all in a super marraige and give eachother the same amount of respect and love and understanding.

oh wait that is a utopia.

[DashBlades]

Then incest would be a major problem, and we would all eventually die of diseases because our immune systems would stop being effective lol.

[Satisfiction]

I like the idea of a group marriage... I always have. I'm not sure if I would personally do it, but as long as everyone is a consenting adult and happy and committed to the concept then it would be a great environment. The trick is keeping is a happy and consenting marriage I would imagine. Would extra people make a marriage more or less stressful?

[DashBlades]

Great question Satisfaction. From the stories of I've read of people who actually do it (in it's various forms), it seems that the marriage enviornment actually gets more connected & stable. Of course, it takes MUCH more communication than is required in a standard monogamous relationship, but typically, people say it pays off.