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Reply With QuoteWait a sec, you mean two guys living together, or a guy and a girl?Originally Posted by safire1106
In either case, it can be either or. Friendship with apparent benefits, or relationship with apparent gifts.
Okay guys I need your help here!!! I have a friend who I met here who lived with a guy for 18months. They lived together, slept in the same bedroom, bought him a new car, supported in financial and took care of all of his needs (if you know what I mean). Is that considered a relationship or a friendship? You all seem to help me out any other time lets see whatever one has to offer. Thanks for you help in advance on this one.
Wait a sec, you mean two guys living together, or a guy and a girl?
In either case, it can be either or. Friendship with apparent benefits, or relationship with apparent gifts.
Last edited by FlamingArrow; 08-27-2008 at 12:52 PM.
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
no a guy and a girl that from the start slept in the same bed and she took care of him like i said in everyway.
Oh and he was the one who promised that someday they would have everything. To me that is a relationship!!
Again, you would have to ask the guy, there's no way to know. Saying it's a relationship is a matter of opinion. Some people are just as happy being in a friend with benefits situation.
Yes I've seen people give crazy gifts, trips, etc, and they are just fwb. Also, the guy saying that means nothing, he might just really be loving the gifts and getting her to keep em coming, doesn't mean it's true.
Then again the possibility of relationship isn't negated.
50/50 chance
Last edited by FlamingArrow; 08-27-2008 at 12:58 PM.
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
Well that's why I am asking you guys even you girls what you would call it. He understood from the start what she wanted.
lol there's no way too tell
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
it really differs depending on the guy - you can't win love with gift and attention but if he loves her back and wants to be with her he will say it's a relationship, otherwise he will say it's a friendship in my honest opinion. Some guys have a problem being in a relationship due to past hurts or insecurities so they may say friends with benefits, and yes other guys may just love the attention but not actually be in love so it really depends on the guy and the situation..
does he say he loves her ?
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only when he was losing her did he show it. even after they split he would still call her when he needed something and when she got tired of it he said some real mean things to her and her friends about her. they are really shocked because they seen what was going on between them. the problem is now she has someone new in her life and she can't trust him do to what she was put through with him. i have met them both and he is very loving towards her but she is afraid to let her guard down do to this relationship. i am trying to help her through it but it's hard since i have never been there.
I was about to answer "sex and beer," because that pretty much answers any question you may have about the male mind. But, yeah, my guess is that it's some type of a relationship. Why are you so concerned about this, anyway?
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Is this a Men only room?
You get what you think about whether you want it or not.
It sounds like he is manipulating her. To be honest if she left it was for a reason and probably shouldn't go back there. Then again idk how serious everything was. Everyone goes through learning lessons, and resentment isn't good, but forgiveness is. It really depends on the situation, if they are fighting for real love, idk, I suppose it's worth it. Otherwise, there really is no point ni going through the pain.
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
I'm very judgemental and opinionated. The guy is a player/ Himbo and the girl has low self esteem. Of course its a relationship! I would never treat my friend like an ATM/ prostitute.
You get what you think about whether you want it or not.
ladies you give your answer also. the reason i am so concerned is the person came upon this site through him. instead of him letting her be a part of it he use to hide who he was talking too. one day me and her started talking and she explained the entire thing too me. at first i could not believe anyone would be like this. so last weekend i went and met her. she is a beautiful person. i met her family and her man and friends. he met a person on here that he has made her out to be a crazed person yeah she was upset we would all be upset if this was done to us. he told her to watch herself on this sight because if she didn't she would be kicked off of here. now she is afraid to be on here. even though she met a lot of nice people who helped her. i don't think anyone should ever be made not to be involved in something they like. the funny part is now that he met someone new from here he never comes here anymore.
It sounds like she was snooping more than trying to be part of the community, that would piss me off too.
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
how is snooping when she was talking to everyone here and learning doing her meditation and researching everything. when they were talking she asked him to let her be part of this with him. he refused.
I think she did the right thing. Sometimes the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one.
You get what you think about whether you want it or not.
i will make sure i tell her that. i keep telling her to come back it is okay. she is just scared.
That's actually not healthy. You need to heal on your own first, otherwise you are just replacing the new guy with the old one, and you carry over the same issues, and ends bad in the end. Bad advice.
“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
what is she afraid of here?
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