Hi, I'm a mom wondering....

**seekingtruth** · 08-27-2008

I'm a mom of a unique 3 1/2 year old. I know every parent feels their child is unique and rightly so, that's what a parents love is all about.

I have two older children, 19 & 14 plus I ran an in-home daycare for 8 years so I have a pretty good idea of what is 'typical' for children at certain development stages.

My son, Remy was diagnosed with Sensory Integration Disorder at age two. Symptoms started at 4 months of over reactions to his senses and then 'night terrors' (so his doc said) at 9 months but as he started talking we learned that he was fully awake these were not night terrors. Especially when the fears happened during the day and daily, he was 'seeing' and talking to people and kids that we couldn't see.

He has extreme reactions and intollerances to sounds and changes and crazy tantrums in which he is so very physically distraught there is no way anyone can tell me he is spoiled and manipulating me, esp. since this has been going on since day 2 of his life in the hospital.

I was told by a doc last week that he thinks my son has Asperger's Syndrome, but when I look up the check list a lot doesn't fit.

I have just begun to look at the Indigo Children possibility, but really don't know what to think. Then I hear about Crystal Children being ages 0 to 7. I'm confused. My child doesn't have huge eyes, like I've heard is a characteristic of the Crystal Children. Could he be an Indigo child at age 3 1/2, could he be a Crystal child without the 'large eyes'?

Could he just be a psychic child who is stressed over 'feeling too much'? He also has the hyperactivity that is talked about with the Indigo children, so much so that people that come over to our home have to leave in a short amount of time because he exhausts them.

answers please, I'm running out of options as far as preschool goes with his behaviors, need to know the best ways to help my beautiful child.

Thanks for listening to a very concerned mom.

**Indigo Dog** · 08-27-2008

Dear Seekingtruth,
Welcome and I hope you find comfort here. I am not a doctor. I do however admire your courage in seeking out help. Do click on the 'tag' at the top of the page and look for threads relating to indigo children, diet, and help for moms. As long as you remember to nurture and take care of your needs first you should be able to work through this challenge. Best wishes.

**Lovelight** · 08-27-2008

Hey! I just wanted to reach out to you. I'm not sure if I will have any answers but maybe something will help. I am a mom of, what is starting to look like, a extra-sensory sensitive 2 year old. I swear he has the insides of a 70 year old man and it has been that way since he was born. He never seemed like a baby to me and he is as opinionated and stubborn as the same 70 year old man. He was colicky and has numerous food allergies (a crystal/indigo commonality). We chased out an "imaginary" entity named Moe as well as a man who was creating scary sheep out of our house. I have to chase out a scary frog nearly every day. Coinciding with his fears is dark energy that I feel in our house which I cleared and he became more confident but still plays the game. But it is a game now and not real to him.

My advice is that it is not important if your child is Indigo or Crystal. My intuition tells me that crystal children have a higher tendency towards sensory issues. I strongly suspect my son is sensitive so I try not to stifle it but I have no idea which category he would fit into nor is it important. My advice is to 1) ask your pediatrician for an EI (early intervention) referral to make sure it is not a developmental delay. I know someone online who has a nearly 3 year old with the same sensitivities (getting super upset because the light was shining through the closed blinds during dinner) and they passed their EI evaluation. I swear her son is crystal/indigo but her faith will never accept that. Anyway, it is important to rule out "real world" factors. 2) Find out all you can about shielding, empathic ability, psychic phenomenon, etc so, when your son is old enough, you can teach him. You can help shield and protect him and your house in the meantime. Teach him clearing. For my son he will tell me something is scary and I yell at whatever it is to go home and that he is not wanted here. I then have my son yell, "Go home frog!" or whatever is bothering him. A really good centering technique for toddlers is helping them get back into their own person. I play a game with my son called "I like...". I say, "You like [pause] trucks" "You like [pause] water" and he will say "I like boats" this really brings his energy back to him and separates it from people/things that are bothering him.

The school issue is a biggie. In my area there are schools for these children and some of us are in talks to start another one. I have a meetup.com group for this purpose too so if you are in the San Francisco Bay area I can hook you up

But you are not alone in feeling isolated and lost. Here is a link to a search I did on Amazon for books on Indigo/crystal children (let me know if it doesn't work)

**seekingtruth** · 08-27-2008

Thank you for the replies, it's good to be heard!

He has been to Early Intervention and didn't fit their criteria, he is advanced not delayed so therefore didn't fit their catagories. We do have an appointment for an evaluation for a preschool in the area that deals with special needs children and he may get in since he isn't doing ADL's such as dressing himself ect. But I don't know because there is no physical reason, he just doesn't want to slow down long enough to do these things, he doesn't have the time to care if he is still in his p.j.'s he hits his day running with his ideas.

We live in the Midwest so unfortunately I'm not in your area to get to the schools you were talking about.

He does go to occupational therapy, has been for a year for the sensory dificulties under the Sensory Processing Disorder diagnosis.

Other than that, I am trying to not worry about putting a name on what group he fits into. I guess I've been working on checking out what to do about the behaviors he is exhibiting and what other parents have found helpful. There were some great ideas when I read about Aspergers regarding some of his hard to deal with issues.

But what I can't help noticing is that all of those 'more accepted' 'disorders' don't have any help or acknowledgment regarding the obvious psychic abilities he has. I find myself not saying a word about it to conventional doc's for fear of them completely disregarding anything I am saying.

I do have to say that when I read about the Indigo Children that fit my son more than anything else I've looked into.

When I describe him to people I say: "You know how autistic children are withdrawn into themselves and their own world? My son is exactly opposite but just as extreme as they are inwardly, he is open to everything and everyone around him, to the point that it overwhelms and scares him."

Things will happen like I will be thinking to myself "I wonder if I should put a movie on for him" and he will look at me and say outloud "Yeah, Toy Story please!" How does this fit with Aspergers?

Thanks again for your responses, every bit of information is helpful.

**bluewaterdance** · 08-27-2008

If I had to look at categories for your son I would think sensory integration, and gifted in some sense. Its like his mind has to catch up to his abilities. There is a lot of elasticity in brain development prior to age 6. I would say minimal labels, and kind therapists. Is language development on track?

What kind of doctor said aspergers? It isn't just responding to the environment accurately but understanding all the nonverbal social cuing that goes on (and empathic sense). But I think what may get hard is that with the sensory integration and maybe some of the fast moving (ADD-like?) activity - it may be hard to judge what he is comprehending socially until he is a bit older.

**seekingtruth** · 08-27-2008

Language was early, sentences at 15 months. Taught himself how to read and pronounce letters of the alphabet when he was turning 2.

It was a psychologist who said Aspergers, we brought him in hoping to get help for his anxieties and fears and this is a therapist who deals a lot with Autism and since a lot of his sensory qualities cross over to autism behaviors I thought this may be a good match.

But then I can't help but wonder, does this doc think every kid with problems has some sort of autism...........no way to know, just a question in the back of my mind.

**bluewaterdance** · 08-27-2008

It is always worth it to do your own research on a disorder. And no matter what a therapist's expertise, it is helpful for you and your child to have a good rapport. I would ask point blank what led the psychologist to Aspergers for your son (what data?).

**seekingtruth** · 08-27-2008

Thanks, that's good advise, I really should ask him what criteria he saw to support his findings. And of course he said, In his opion on only this one visit, there wasn't a formal testing done, just an hour consultation.

No matter if my child is an Indigo child or not, what I have learned from reading about it is to be appreciative for my child's differences and not to look at them as defects. It has lifted some stress for me, this way of thinking, it's all relative to perception. I can chose to be stressed or to enjoy the ride for the adventure it is.

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**darksearch** · 08-27-2008

Hello and welcome seekingtruth...big hugs to you...i do hope this place supports you in the way you need....many important things were said above...the names and titles are not important...but if it will make you feel better....take care of all medical avenues first ...anyways
Some people are just very sensitive to energy...sound like your child is able to feel and see energy...which is not all bad...you will both need to become better accustomed with how to deal with said energy....and communication is the key here....talk with your son...especially in times of distress....you will need to be calm...you will need to be his rock...... talk with him about what he is seeing and feeling....and as someone said above...get him to use the words "go home"....you not welcome here...or something to that effect...it is important that the spirit or energy form is denied permission to be in your house...near your family....when said energy knows it is not welcome....it will leave....with practice you will both become better at it