I want to make it clear first that these are my inner beliefs and perceptions and that I respect yours, even if they contradict somehow what I am writing in here. I am open and interested in reading different ideas and perspectives on any situation.
I believe that most of our difficulties in life come from early traumatic experiences which are left unresolved somehow and which secretly haunt us for years; sometimes even for lifetimes...
When we are young children, we are like an open book. We are children which means that we carry high levels of curiosity, openness and appreciation for all what surrounds us.
We are also somehow naive and innocent as children. We are so easily programmable, both for good and for bad.
As children, we have such an easy time to learn new things, anything we want. We have the curiosity, the open mind, the energy for it. However, at the same time, our mind is prone to being programmed in any way.
When a child has been raised within a mature, loving and healthy family and environment, we see healthy individuals as adults. Adults who carry a positive perception of themselves, other people and the world. This also facilitates their positive energy flow and so, an easier or less complicated lifestyle in general.
When we people who seem to constantly struggle in life, people who irradiate a lack of self love, or interior emptiness, are usually people who have had a traumatic childhood experience. When I say traumatic, I do not mean necessarily a life full of supreme tragedies. What I mean is more about different life experiences which leave a subconscious mark in the child. Or in other words: Experiences that do not go away with time. Their energetic print stays with us and may cause us all sorts of blocks in our life.
This process is of course personal to everyone. And 2 people may go through same or similar experiences and develop very different mental responses towards such situations.
But why would a child react emotionally to certain experiences while other experiences which may be on the same level of difficulty are easily overcome by this child? Why is one person triggered by some specific experiences while being "immune" to others?
I have my personal belie regarding this:
I believe the reason is behind our evolutionary process and history... On a Soul level. We were born so many times before this lifetime. We carry a deep and complex history and energetic imprint even when we are babies or children; but which begun way, way before. It has been discovered that babies are not born with a fresh and empty consciousness as it has been thought. Children are also old souls who carry deep old wounds and all sorts of life experiences. The idea that a child is a fresh canvas for the parents to build and shape on, is a bit wrong in my opinion. Children bring their own karmic history, life purpose, identity and personality; many times very different from parents expectations.
I believe that the experiences which trigger us deeply and which generate mental traumas (limiting ideas and thought patterns) in us, are those experiences that happen to us, usually early in our life, which resonate with very similar past experiences that we had; in other lives.
The reason why I believe we go through them again during our childhood or youth is evolution. Every time we repeat the same experiences which have left a mark in us, we have the opportunity to shift our perception and emotional baggage around it. This results in healing and growth which is evolution.
Inner healing is to let go of these old wounds and blocks which keep us under a state of lack of freedom and unhappiness. Feelings and ideas of not being good enough, not being capable or powerful, being guilty or non-deserving are example of common karmic blocks / thought patterns that may be healed through mind reprogramming in order to move on to a happier and free lifestyle.
These are just my beliefs and ideas which I like to share. You are of course always free to disagree.