How to Make My Mother Listen?

#1
I have a very dysfunctional family, to begin with. Both of my dads are in prison, but my step-dad does send us money. That's all he can do. So it's me, my mom, and my two brothers.

My two brothers are both younger than me (13 and 11) and all three of us have been diagnosed with AD/HD and I'm pretty sure the 11-year-old is bipolar. So we're all put on medication, right? Yeah. I secretly don't take mine and have been for over five months now. In that time my mother's said "I can see a difference without your medicine" and stuff like that. I just want to roll my eyes. But I had to take a psych eval because I'm on probation (disturbing the peace, if you care) and she had to answer some questions about my AD/HD and even she noticed that I don't really have the traits of a kid with AD/HD. Maybe she's finally starting to realize that it's all me.

I'm waiting for the right time to tell her that I don't take my medication, or I'll do it when I'm taken off of it. She said it might happen. Anyway, my two brothers. My 13-year-old brother does need to be on medicine. I'm 99% positive that he isn't an indigo or anything, just AD/HD. I can kinda tell because his medicine actually helps him calm down and stuff. There's little difference with me and my other brother.

My 11-year-old brother, on the other hand, is the crazy psycho one. Not me. He gets angry at the smallest things. He swears all the time, insults people, and then expects them to not insult him back! If you do, he gets pissed. He talks a lot, if you tell him to be quiet, he'll say, "Just shut up, b***h." And his medicine really doesn't help. He says he can see colors around people usually. So he's possibly psychic, very hot-headed, self-centered and selfish, and very, very loud and talkative. Hyper, too. And the medication doesn't work.

Did I mention both brothers are absolutely helpless?

This is where I'm asking for help. I always tell my mother how she should do things, but she says, "Let me be the mother, not you." She doesn't understand. I know how it should be done. I'm an Old Soul. I just know. It's common sense. Why can't she see it? Not to mention that I'm also a cat therian, and an indigo, and a lightworker, and whatever else I happen to be. We're pretty special cases. If you don't do it right, we'll grow up to be serial killers. I can tell she's a fairly new soul, with a little experience with children. Obviously we're all a test for her. She's failing it.

She always complains about doing everything, but she doesn't make us do it! She cooks all the food for my brothers, but expects me to do it by myself because I generally do anyway. I'm just an independent person. One time she was going to cook Zach's food (the 13-year-old) and I wanted her to cook something for me, and she's like, "No Kasey. You're 13. Cook it yourself." I proceeded to exclaim that it was Zach who's 13, not me! She still made me do it in the end.

Anybody got any advice? I want to make my mom listen to me on how to really parent us before it's really too late. She can't just take advice from other mothers because we're different. She always gets mad when I'm right and snaps at me to let her be the mother. She knows what's best for us. Nothing gets me more pissed off than "We know better for you." Obviously if you're shoving medicine down my throat, I'm the one who knows best. She can't understand what it's like to risk losing that animal part of you. To lose part of yourself. I cried in my closet until my mom threatened to call the police on me because I didn't want to lose touch with her. Magick and her is everything to me. Can anybody relate?

Any advice is awesome, and we're dealing with a person who always gets mad when I'm right. I'm not saying that to be arrogant or anything, either. Thanks in advance, anyway.

#2
Stay close with your friends and people that care about you. Maybe try reading about narcissitic personality disorders, as your mom may suffer from some form of it; if so, you and your family need to get help from someone - I am familiar with living with someone with these disorders and things do not typically improve.
Your story is heart breaking, and your thread is difficult to reply to as few could truly relate or understand how strong a person you must be - my heart goes out to you and your family. That's probably the best thing I could say in reply - I know things will get better for you if you stay strong.

#3
Three14 wrote:Stay close with your friends and people that care about you. Maybe try reading about narcissitic personality disorders, as your mom may suffer from some form of it; if so, you and your family need to get help from someone - I am familiar with living with someone with these disorders and things do not typically improve.
Your story is heart breaking, and your thread is difficult to reply to as few could truly relate or understand how strong a person you must be - my heart goes out to you and your family. That's probably the best thing I could say in reply - I know things will get better for you if you stay strong.
My mother really isn't that bad of a mom, she's just not doing it right. What we need is something different from normal kids. And it's not that she [i:1dksaknp]has [/i:1dksaknp]to be right (I have a friend that's way worse) but...it's complicated.

It's just some things that she does annoy the hell out of me. Like just a few minutes ago, we got a letter that said my brother will have to go to summer school and no transportation is required and my mom doesn't know how she's going to be able to get him there. She said, "Everything I do is for somebody else." But she could change that! If she had made my brother do his homework and get off of his stupid game that's ruining him then he wouldn't be going to summer school. The things she complains about she could change, that's what annoys me. She could do things, but she doesn't have the guts to. Times like these I'm pretty sure I'm adopted because I have no idea where I got my traits from.

#4
iisawesome wrote:My mother really isn't that bad of a mom, she's just not doing it right. What we need is something different from normal kids. And it's not that she [i:25v12c2c]has [/i:25v12c2c]to be right (I have a friend that's way worse) but...it's complicated.

It's just some things that she does annoy the hell out of me. Like just a few minutes ago, we got a letter that said my brother will have to go to summer school and no transportation is required and my mom doesn't know how she's going to be able to get him there. She said, "Everything I do is for somebody else." But she could change that! If she had made my brother do his homework and get off of his stupid game that's ruining him then he wouldn't be going to summer school. The things she complains about she could change, that's what annoys me. She could do things, but she doesn't have the guts to. Times like these I'm pretty sure I'm adopted because I have no idea where I got my traits from.
Trust me - read up on the traits of narcissism. It is not necessarily demonizing your mother, but it may help you learn to provide the things she needs to provide things back.

#5
Say to her to take her time in deciding things. Just say it to her face and after that tell her to take you seriously. Also tell her that you want to help, but it indicates that she must listen to you properly.

In a way show your adulthood, as you are an old soul.

#6
Hi,

The hardest thing to learn in life is how to deal with those around you. Have you heard the phrase "you can lead a horse to water but you can not make it drink". There is no way to change any another person. The sooner you discover this reality, the better off you will be.

The need to change others springs from the reality that as children, the choices our parents make becomes the circumstances which we find our self in. You did not say what your age was. Most of us carry this child like perception into our adult life. We strive to make our life better by improving the choices of those who effect us.

I like to encourage true self empowerment. That is where you learn how to make the most of you life by changing your own way of BEing. You can never control the choices of others but you can control your reactions and responses to them.

A very stange thing will happen if you ever truly become self empowered. Those who wish to acquire wisdom in their will seek you out so that they can listen to you.

I hope that my thoughts on this will be helpful.

John

#7
Thanks people. I'm 15 years old btw. That's usually the way I am, NOYZ. I just say things like I mean it (then get called a snotty brat by my best friend and everyone else). But yeah, thanks anyway guys.

#8
Remember that we are all here to learn lessons, and with the three of you your mom is going to learn a lot. My mom and me and my sisters and brother are indigo but my dad isn't. My mom had to learn and we all did that my dad had to think it was his idea even if it wasn't if we wanted something. Even to this day we are like why doesn't he understand, then I remember his mind doesn't think that way. We are here to teach. Maybe if you approach it that way your mom won't feel like she is a failure. I think that is why she says let me be the mom.Help her to be the best mom she can be.

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#10
Thanks Pam8 :) She really isn't that bad, it's just that she gives in too easily and always lets us off easily and always just gives us what we want. I mean, I'm actually guilty of taking advantage of that a few times, but usually I hate it. My brothers are both selfish idiots (mostly the youngest) and they're totally helpless! They can't do anything on their own! I always do, just because I feel like it. Since I'm easy, my mom doesn't mind making me do things, but I think she's scared of my littlest brother and they're just not easy to get to.

#11
iisawesome wrote:Thanks Pam8 :) She really isn't that bad, it's just that she gives in too easily and always lets us off easily and always just gives us what we want. I mean, I'm actually guilty of taking advantage of that a few times, but usually I hate it. My brothers are both selfish idiots (mostly the youngest) and they're totally helpless! They can't do anything on their own! I always do, just because I feel like it. Since I'm easy, my mom doesn't mind making me do things, but I think she's scared of my littlest brother and they're just not easy to get to.
Hi,

I wanted to say that there are ways to influence these things and encourage improvements. Most of my 15 yo friends have skills and I do suspect you have them as well. Now the youngest brother is the one who is the most upset and angry. If he could see you as a friend instead of the enemy, a lot of things will change.

John

#12
Telepath John wrote:Hi,

I wanted to say that there are ways to influence these things and encourage improvements. Most of my 15 yo friends have skills and I do suspect you have them as well. Now the youngest brother is the one who is the most upset and angry. If he could see you as a friend instead of the enemy, a lot of things will change.

John
Yeah that's true. He's just completely use to getting what he wants and somebody always doing stuff for him. He knows that if he acts out he'll get it. He's done some very major things, even ended up in foster care for like six months or a year. We used to be really close. He would call me his second mother. I feel like it. But I just hate this part of him.
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